Alright I was introduced to this girl through my co worker because she is his wifes sister. She just got back from a 6 month work thing in hawaii. She is 21, I am 23. She was raised in a very religious family and I have a suspision she is maybe still a virgin and/or doesnt have much experience with guys?

We all hung out together a few times and I could tell she might be into me so one day I texted her and told her I wanted to take her out, but she said it would be too weird hanging out one on one because she had a boyfriend back in hawaii.

I didnt really let this affect me but I asked her sister about this situation and she assured me that she is into me she just doesnt know what is going on with her bf back in hawaii.

Sooooo last night my co worker invites me over to hang out. Its him, his wife, this girl im trying to get with....and their parents! It was weird and I was caught off guard.

But I just put a big smile on my face, introduced myself to them and we ended up playing dominos and shuffleboard. Then eventually her parents left leaving just us 4 to hang out.

So us 4 play shuffleboard for a bit and I figure this was a good time to start going kino because her parents finally left. Just playfull nudging here and there. And of course this whoel time she knows i like her because I had already asked her out once.

Thankfully my co worker and his wife go upstairs leaving us alone for a little bit. At one point she grabbed my iphone and locked me out of it for like 10 minutes because she got my pass code wrong so much. So I grabbed her phone and she seems to want it back really bad so she basically jumped ontop of me on the couch and we kind of playfully wrestled around for a little bit. I told her I would give her phone back for a kiss. She pecked me on the cheek But whatever, I gave her phone back and she still stayed there on the couch right next to me.

She had that look in her eye and a smile on her face so I did the mystery kiss routine and just said "Do you want to kiss me?" To my surprise she said No but she said it with a smile on her face?

At this point I was frustrated as hell because I know she likes me but she keeps pulling herself away!

So I just ask her why she is playing these games with me and leading me on when she knows I like her.

She got a little nervous/serious and said that she thinks I am "very attractive" but she doesnt know if she is gonna be going back to hawaii and what is gonna happen with her current boyfriend. Then she said she felt like a bad person over the situation.

I told her I think she should stay here where her family and friends are and the conversation kind of drifted off into an awkard silence.

At this point it was about 4:30am so she said she should go home. She got up so I told her to help me up but instead I just pulled her down toward me again. I wanted to give it one last shot so I just told her I liked her and I wanted to kiss her. She seemed like she wanted to but she said she "cant" but she gave me another kiss on the cheek?

We both ended up leaving but we have plans tonight hang out again and play glow in the dark beer pong.

Here is where I need help! What should I do tonight? Should I be more aggressive or back off?

I want to get with this girl and continue seeing her so I need to know how to get her to forget about her bf

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Be agressive, you can have her for one evening and then she will regret the whole thing and slowly or fast back off again.

If you wait, she will just keep you at a distance and wait for this boyfriend.

Thats what I was thinking.

Any advice for tonight? Should I go heavy kino and try for the kiss again?

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Indeed you should

I now know this girl likes me and she somewhat trusts me because we talked for like 3 hours and she told me some very personal stories.

But she still wont let me take her out because of this LDR she has with this other guy.

She said he's a nice guy and he even wrote a song for her Thats tough to compete with. And he might be flying up her to visit her soon which I dont want to happen obviously

They have only been dating like 2 months and she has been here for 1 month now. So really they were only together for a month because she came back here.

I need advice on how to win her over!

She brought up the idea of exploring this cave that neither of us have been to. So I am hoping we will do that soon, maybe this week.

My plan is to pack a lunch to bring with us and a blanket so we can kind of do a romantic picnic. We have to hike about a mile to get to the entrance of the cave so I figure once we reach the entrance we can break for lunch and I can try to set a romantic type situation.

Then once we go into the cave to explore a bit I am hoping to kiss her and hopefully that will help out my situation? I dont want to go any further than kissing because like the above poster said, I dont want her to regret anything and that chase her back into the other dudes arms.

A few side notes that might be relivant: Her sister thinks she should ditch her current bf and date me and she calls me brother-in-law all the time. I met her parents even though I dont think they know whats going on, but they seem to think im a good guy. I shook her dads hand first thing. And before he left that night he went out of his way to come shake my hand again and say goodbye to me, so I think her family approves of me.

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Yeah,

But who cares what the dad wants. Girls nowadays will to do church and dutifully do their prayers, then on the way home bring their grandma a basket of freshly-plucked apples, tuck their little brothers into bed and then go out slouching on the streets prostraying their 'booties' for whatever broad-shouldered gangstah guy comes along with pot, jewellery and/or ghettoblaster on the shoulder.

So, you just bang this chick while you can. You are just the "meh, I still have feelings for this guy but I dunno . . . Maybe I should test myself by seeking distraction in a new flirt . . . {building up tension with this guy} . . . Maybe not {putting this guy off again}.

You will just lose time, focus and attention on this buddy. Potential case of "one-itis" developing here.

Since Saturday things have developed a little bit.

So she likes me and we talk alot more often now.

Her sister texted me on Monday and told me the hopefully "real" reason she is being so distant. Its because she is afraid I wont goto church with her and her family???

They are a very religious family and she is very close with God. Once I told her sister I would have no problem going to church with her (even if its a christian church and I was raised catholic).

I asked her if this was the main reason she wouldnt let me take her out and she said this was 99% of it and the other 1% is how she can let go of this other guy back in Hawaii.

This convo was supposidly between just me and her sister, BUT ever since Monday after that convo, this girl I like has been texting me ALOT more frequently and she is alot more flirty too So I am pretty sure her sister must have told her something

Before she was scared to hang out with me alone, but today we have plans to go do something, FINALLY.

I will probly make it something simple where we can just walk and talk. I was thinking of going down to the national park and walking our dogs? Me and her both like nature and she is very pationate about photography so it should be alright.

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Quick question hopefully someone answers soon.

What is that photo routine Style uses? Where you take like 3 pictures, 1 serious, one goofy, and one passionate?

I cant remember it and google has failed me

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Catholics are Christians you douche.

Christian and Catholic churches are very different...

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Mongol. you have to distinguish between Protestant and Catholic. Not between Christian and Catholic. You have to know this stuff in order not to look retarded in front of the girls and their families.

What are you talking about???

I have been to both Catholic mass and Christian service. All I said is that they are more different than alike

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