A'right so my best friend has some issues with his long term relationship. He's a stranger to the PUA shit and whatnot but I really don't know how to help him out with this.


It's like this:

They've been together for 3 years & they love each-other. They're doing kinda good from what he tells me but he's kinda alarmed that she started telling him that she is starting to feel 'suffocated by him' recently.
Now ,I've known this guy my entire life and he's seriously not the jealous / posessive type. If anything , she's more of both than he is.
Even more so ,he hangs out with me more than with her , so yeah , its not like his all up in her face all day everyday.


The core of them problems is this that they argued a little and then she told him "I don't know what feelings I have for you". So she basically tells him she doesnt know if she still loves the guy.
Here's the tricky bit. The next day she cries her eyes off saying that she didn't mean that , that she's sorry ,blablafuckingbla.
The next day she's at it again "I dont know what I feel for you"
Next day ,she regrets it and cries again.



So yeah,basically its a huge back and forth and I dont know what the fuck is going on here.It looks to me like the problem is 100% her , but even if it's so , what the hell do I tell him to do ?

Normally I'd recommend a little freeze out , you know , give her the chance to miss him and all, but it's just so very strange. One day they're the most perfect couple you can imagine , all discustingly in love with eachother , and the next day she pulls some kind of major drama.

I dont think I've ever seen this in my life , I'm telling you , It's from one extreme to the other.


Anyway ,I think I can hook you guys up with some texts if needed , which will probably explain this better.

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If I was him, I would probably back off and give her some time and space. Pushing it more will make things worse.

Of course, if I WAS him I am sure I would be in a turmoil and unable to really think objectively...

Show the texts if you can.

Her: " Hey babe , call me ? I'm out grocery shopping "
Him: " Want me to babysit you again ? ^^"
Her: " Nah , it's not like that ,and you know it."
(aparently she always calls him to keep her company while shopping on her own)
- so he calls , they talk blabla , she gets home -
Him :" My job here is done ! pay cash or credit ? (babysitting refference)"
Her :"You know what ? I'm starting to get sick of your outbursts. Either revise how you talk to me or leave me alone"
Him: "What ? What's your problem ?"
Her: "You are , and I hope you're gonna get it fixed. Good night !"
Him :" You know , you have some serious issues as of late. Get your shit together and stop acting out on me for random / stupid reasons."

Before this , other texts were like I said , discustingly in love stuff. Nothing relevant there.

I don't really think he said anything too bad / afc -ish from what I read here...I don't know. It's kinda hard for me to think objectively too considering the guy is like my brother and stuff. I don't wanna fuck up his relationship or anything.

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I"m not sure if your pal invited you into this relationship or not, but those sound like she's a EMW.

If you buddy asks you for advice after bringing you into the situation, tell him to dump her ass and find someone he doesn't have to put up with that crap with.

Then offer to help him find someone that proves the point that there are other women out there just as good, and better, than what he has.

EMW is the current buzzword being bandied around on this forum, I think we need a lot more information on her to decide. It's worth reading up on Mack's excellent thread on the subject.

But that text exchange does sound like a bit of a test to me.

She's not an EMW. She's being like that just as of late.

About the texts , I think he managed to pass the test and not be a pussy about it.

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