Hey guys, I think I finally found way to get rid of one-itis over girls.

The principle of one-itis is fairly simple. A guy is shy. He somehow manages to get a girls number. He gets a date by paying for whole 10-served-meals in local "le grand frou frou." And is overly obsessive about the girl. His D-Date with some girl happens once a halfyear, doesn't it? Result; relying on girl too much. And as soon a girl shows some interest, the guy goes nuts. He starts thinking about her, what will he do during a date, and so on.

He gets in "love", but it's more like an obsession. His life is planned about The Girl, how will they get married, have kids, etc. All because she has one and most important great trait; she showed some interest. She is the way to get out of this boring life, and get a wife. Of course, this repels the girl; she can get in love after a long good time spent with confident, not-needy guy. Finally, the guy breaks up and confesses his love in tears. It creeps the heck out of girl and she starts avoiding him, changes her number, or simply moves to another state. Because the guy will be there somewhere stalking her.


So, one-itis leads to pain. And it is much easier to avoid it. How?

Well, I told you one thing. The guy planes his life around her. So instead, plan your life without her and simply try to fit her somehow. But don't make any room for "what if?" 's. She calls you; do you have time? If yes, alright. If no, move on and just tell her "I can't go right now."

Also a great thing - STOP THINKING ABOUT HER!!!.

Don't think of her. Delete her number, throw away pics of you together; out of sight is out of mind.

As soon you stop thinking of her, your brain cells containing memory of her will start to die. You will be able to return "back" in normal life. Avoid one-itis by not-thinking about her. Forget her. Past is past. You had your chance, you blew it. So what? Instead, use feedback you got from the "love" which enables you to tell when things are going wrong, and what not to do. You don't deal with past anymore. No more!

It actually feels great to be free again, doesn't it?

Now, how come PUA's never get one-itis? Because they have many opportunities.

They are conf- sorry, my bad. WE are confident that we can game well. We can get a girl. We don't need to plan future with one of them, 'cause there will be more. She is just another great-looking girl in sea of babes. She chose you; why shouldn't other girls too? You can game girls. You can get girls. When you need a girl, you will get a girl. So, no more one-itis! That is THE WAY to avoid it.

I hope this helps. Goodbye guys. Carpe Diem.

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Very nicely said. I pretty much did all that while getting over my ex- fiance. As soon as I stopped thinking about it, things started to get better, then I discovered The Game and look where I am now.

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Any advice for situations where The Girl tends to pop-up at similar establishments? (Aside from the obvious "Go to a different establishment")

To rephrase: How do you get past the one-itis if she is in your face?

I agree in theory, but my personal experience with one-itis is a little different. For me, she was the one girl with whom I never needed to try. With all other girls I have to put at least some focus into "gaming" them, even during a relationship. She would always meet me halfway, and our conversations flowed easily and comfortably.

We're trying to just be friends now, but it's hard. She has a new boyfriend, but I can tell that we both think of how things used to be. I, for one, am just gaming girls until I find another one that I can connect to so easily.

You can always just imagine her vomiiting or something

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out of site, out of mind. but what if she works with you and goes to the same bars? i never found a post on how to act in that situation.