Hey,
I'm Alexis, 26 year old from Brazil. Just get into this PUA stuff 1 month ago and enjoying it very much so far!
My story is very simple: I was part of serious relationships most of my adult life (8 years with girlfriends out of 10 years - I had 3 girlfriends). I have kissed a considerable amount of girls for an AFC (~150), but my fuck / kiss ratio is very poor (just fucked 5 girls my hole life). So, my main goal is to increase this fuck / kiss ratio - offcourse, if i can kiss more girls, the more the better.
The story below is about my first Fclose after breaking my last relationship.
Author: Alexis
City: Cape Town (South Africa)
The day after I broke up my relationship, I decided to join a few friends that were going to South Africa a couple of weeks later. In our first day in the hostel, we did much noise playing guitar and a kind-of-cute girl showed up (I would say she is an
. She (Julia) was angry because she had lost her luggage in the airport, and guess what: she was also Brazilian (we're dominating the world!!).
At first I thought she was just angry because of the lugagge, but that was not true: Julia was the perfect "i don't give a fuck style" - and I really don't like this type of girl. So I just started avoiding her at all. My friends did the opposite: they stayed (five of them!) chating and hiting on her all the time.
We went to a club that night, and a friend of mine told me Julia didn't stop looking at me (by this time, other friend of mine was hiting on her). And I just said "Man, that's ok. The only way I'm going to kiss her is if she comes to me and asks me for it. I won't take a chance to fail kissing such a bitchy-style girl!"
That night everyone got to the hostel alone.
The other night, we went out to another club. I just kept negging her (i didn't know about this negging thing yet). Alexis: "Hey, let me put some vodka and energetic here" - Julia: "Oh, are you trying to get me drunk??" - Me: "Not you. I'm getting everyone drunk in here tonight" (and Julia always gave a strange look to me).
That night, I just hit lots of girls - just one I could kiss-close. Was a really nice girl, but I don't know what the fuck my Wingman told her friend that she just grabbed my HB's arm and went running away. Sad...
So, getting straight to the point: the next day, Julia started being nicer. By this time, I stopped to just ignore her completely, and I think she enjoyed the attention. That night, we stayed in the hostel drinking beer... me, 2 male friends and Julia. By this time, i was thinking about kissing her... but it could not happen in front of my other 2 friends (who by the way tried to kiss her in the past days). So I started suggesting we kept drinking in our room. Then started the IOIs I wanted to have:
1) She did not just accept going upstairs - she starting suggesting herself that we should go to the room
2) She asked "whose bed is this?" and after I saying "it's mine", she sat on it
3) Someone turned the lights off and she laid down on my bed (with the head in the opposite direction)
My line was pretty simple:
Alexis: "Hey, do not lay down like this. My foot is on your face"
So she laid in front of me, looking at me
Alexis: [Just thinking] "Uhmm, let's wait for a few seconds before kissing her"
And then I kissed her and we started making out. When i tried to take her pants off, i saw the first LMR:
Julia: "Hey, not so fast. I think we should sleep"
Alexis: "Ok, then. Let's sleep"
We stayed ~30min trying to sleep, without success. I noticed she was still awaken, and started making out again. This time, i took all her clothes off and then She said: "Do you have condoms?" Alexis: "Yes, i will get them".
The thing is: I forgot where my condoms were (stupid, i know!). I kept searching for them for ~3min, and found them (yeah!!). When I got back to the bed:
Julia: "I'm not in the mood anymore"
Alexis: "Ok, I will put the condoms on the table then"
30 seconds have passed
I started kissing her again, and then we had sex.
That's my story.
Elements of sucess:
1) Distinguish yourself among the group (I was the only one not giving attention to her AT ALL)
2) Neg her (A LOT, if she is not the nice-type of girl)
3) Be cool - all times she tried to get me anxious (ex: for LMR), i just said "ok" - but its not just saying "ok" - I was really OK. and that is strange....!
One may say that i should have kissed her before, but a few things kept me from doing it:
1) I didn't want to "confront" any of my friends
2) I didn't want to kiss or fuck a girl who was always hanging out with our group in the beggining of the trip; i wanted to explore the beautiful south african girls (who look Dutch bytheway); Julia would always be there.
Respect from the sunny Brazil,
CHAT
. We need people like you here!
