Well I got a quick question: What's unacceptable interaction between exes? And when should one react?

Well, you're just friends. Right?

Then all interaction is okay; barr anything sexual. though.

I still meet up with my ex and have a great time.

I wouldn't suggest doing it until you are totally over each other.

actually I was thinking more along the lines of between my current gf and her exes. I know where the line goes in my mind. But I'm old enough to know people ain't alike and acceptable lines may be fuzzy, so Im asking you guys to give a broader sense of acceptable and unacceptable.

Unfortunately, each person is different and has different comfort levels with allowing their gfs to be see ex's. Some wouldn't allow it at all, some would.

I think as a basic rule, she should only be meeting up with him from time to time. And probably only to go out, not to watch films on the sofa!

What are your acceptance levels? How do you feel about it?

I don't really have a big problem with her seeing her ex, but that's mostly because I still see mine form time to time. My problem might be the fact that I'm not jealous, an still want to show her I really care for her. A little bit of jealousy is good for you, it means you care. Previous relationship have ended because they don't think I care for them. That being said, I'm a strategic person with a silver tongue (I get what I want), which some people find intimidating (And makes me take something for granted) .

But here's the situation I'm in right now:
- GF of 3 months still talks regular to her Ex-BF (Together for 3yr - broke up 1 yr ago)
- They have regular workouts together (Ones a week on average)
- They work together (Two places)
- Her family still invites him over for certain "family" events (Less after I entered the picture).
- Still have problems asking me for favors, so she asks him instead

But I'm not treated by him at all (I got my life on track, and I know it), but I some times get the feeling I should at least act like I'm a bit bothered. To show my affection towards her. She a really hot yoga and pilates instructor, 22.

Ah, where you are in the first three months I would say not to worry about it. You really don't need to make any sort of deal over this. But try telling her that she can rely on you and doesn't need to get these favours from the ex.

As time progresses, his invites by the parents will reduce. As things between you get more serious, she will start relying on you more.

For now, just enjoy the moment. Maybe offer to go out and get to know the ex as you "understand he is a big part of her life"

Just ignore it dude, like it isn't even there.. It will disappear with time, you'll see. The more attention you give her about it, the more she will do it

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There are other ways to show you care other than being a little jealous. But the fact you chose this particular area to ask about shows that it does bother you, even if it is on some sub concious level.

I would say be honest with yourself, then tackle whatever issue it is that is on your mind.

Donny G nailed my thoughts on this. There are lots of better ways to show you care than by being jealous or acting jealous. So much so, that acting or being jealous is one of the worst ways to show you care. In some ways, it actually shows the opposite, it shows that you care more about yourself or your own insecurities than you do about her.

The concept if you love someone you've got to let them go has a lot of truth in it. It's the concept behind the movie Hall Pass too at play. Reactance theory, if you tell someone they cannot have something, they want it more. But if you show you care in positive ways, and give her the freedom to choose, then she will choose you, and if she doesn't, then you haven't really lost much and can find someone who does choose you. In general, if you've got this down pat and are really in a good place, the person who doesn't choose you has issues and you're better off without her, and you'll be a lot happier and better off with one who does choose you, for good reasons.