You can't make somebody love you. When love is gone, it is gone. Style described it best when he said love is like an energy with its own flow. It can be felt for days, or years. When that energy fades, you should be thankful you had b chance to embrace it.

At least have some respect for yourself. At the very least, freeze her out and give her time to reflect.

freeze=no contact? i was thinking thats my best bet.. i have a good feeling she will text me at some point but when she does do i just act all busy and vague? how do i get her back when she eventually hits me up? also she has to come by house 1 more time to pick something up. is there anything i can do when she comes that will help me get her back or to make her text me once i no contact her?

First of all, don't let her pick that shit up. Tell her you're really busy the next couple of weeks and you don't know when you'll be at home. Then that's it. She will probably reply. All you have to do here is tell her you will let her know when you are free. Then you wait for her to text you. Probably a couple of days. Ignore it. Then eventually get back to her and say you forgot to text her back. Let her get her stuff. When she comes to the door you have two choices. Hand the stuff to her and say you have to shoot, or invite her in, sit straight down and carry on with whatever it is you were doing. The idea is to be friendly, but distant.

What I say next will probably get me in some shit but offer her a drink. If she want a tea or coffee, make yourself one and give her juice or squash and say you only had enough for one. What this does is hurls her back to when she was a child and puts her in a submissive state. Then you wanna speak in terms like she is a child "ah, that's good". But not in a patronising way. Just in a way that it keeps her in that submissive state.

Then you just want to walk out the room to do something while she talks. Again, adults rarely listen to a speaking child. Then say you have to go and let her leave.

That will be the ultimate freeze out.

Alternatively, you could schedule an appointment with a gynochologist and ask him to remove the sand from your vagina.

its a bunch of clothes shes gonna need shes gonna say something like that she only has 2 outfits at the moment and not want to wait

You cannot be serious.

How can she get her stuff if you won't be in. Say she will have to wait as you're busy and have plans and can't drop them just because she needs her clothes

she just hit me up out of nowhere asking me to do her a favor on the computer.. i made some small talk then tried to get her to go to a movie with me.. she says no its too much of a date, she doesnt wanna be friends cause i have feelings and she doesnt, etc.. this is such crap.. whyd this have to happen i was finally happy after so long

after we talked i texted her something like you were just with me monday and kissed me goodbye then youre done with me on tuesday..i would of never stopped kissing you and she hasnt replied in a while. i cant go back to being a lone i sit in my cold apt all alone and miserable..

Please lock this thread and ban this guy.

Gotta be a troll surely?

She said she doesn't have feelings for you any more. It fucking sucks, but it happens.

Suck it up and remove her from your life.

I'm gonna be hard on you OP , take this as a wake-up call , not as a diss.


Ok so she cheated on you , she doesnt wanna work and she does drugs. Dude...bluntly:
WHY THE FUCK WOULD YOU WANT SOMEONE LIKE THAT IN YOUR LIFE ?

You were a VIRGIN before you met her. You say you connect with her ? thats bullshit. You say that because you didnt connect with anyone before her. What you are experiencing here is a very closed-minded vision.You think you're doing good with her because you probably dont have too much ground to compare to ! Understand this , it is very important that you do.

And yes , do this , for your own good in the future.
Its never too late, it's not too late even with her. But TRUST me , and I mean it man , trust me , you DO NOT want her. I mean , come on ? She cheated on you , wont work , and has a kid at 21. AND does drugs. I seriously dont even know which of these things are worse.

About jealousy , possesivity and whatnot. This is never good.Nothing , and I mean nothing good ever comes out of it. Learn to trust people. If they betray your trust , fuck them , its their loss.


At any rate, no matter how fucked up you might think you are (which you probably even aren't) , ask yourself this. "Do I want a druggie , cheating , refusing to work , mother of a child (at 21) in my life ?"


And as a bottom line , this is my advice to you:

It's better to be alone by yourself than to be alone while being with someone. I hope you understand this.

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This post was the best one in the topic. You are right after just hanging out with my friends today I dont feel fucked up. She did a lot of fucked up shit but at a time I know she did really love me shes been with a lot of guys but I was only her third relationship. I know shes going to hit me up and Im going to have a much better life then. This breakup actually helped me realize that I cant keep a girl if my life is bad in every other aspect. If I decide to see her again Im going to start looking into this board and seeing how to let her back in to my life at my own pace and to keep control of the relationship without appearing to keep control. Shes young and wants to party and shit right now but shes smart so maybe she will get her life together in the future and when both our lives are a lot different than they are now maybe things will be different.

This is the most horrendous agony Ive ever been in but Im anxious to do it again because when it works out with someone for good thats the point of life. In my opinion I learned so damn much from this relationship I think I can avoid tons of mistakes I made in this first one. Im gonna eat right, lift every day, get some new hobbies, quit smoking, quit drinking soda, get some new clothes, and just start practicing talking to people in public. Fuck being so worried about nothing all the time I have nothing to lose right now.

I never said she didnt love you. But that doesnt matter.Love is irrelevant if you dont know what to do with it. For doing what she did to you she proved she has no character.

It doesnt matter how old she is. She's 21 and likes to party ? I'm 20. I party. I cant wait to finish college and get a job , I dont do drugs , I work out and I keep it healthy.It's about who you are and who you want to be , not about how old you are.

There's no excuse for doing what you do in life. Everything you do is a choice. A choice you ,as a person ,make. And the choices you make define who you are. I repeat myself here , age.is.irrelevant.

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