Hi i really need help escalating from the attraction phase. I have built it up with the same girls over a few nights. I now am friendly with them and find it difficult to move on. I obviously get many IOIS and slight kinos from the girl but this all occurs in a club enviroment and on texting. I need to now talk somewhere quieter. I have anxiety about asking them out?.. how do i bring up the fact that im into her ? I orginally met the one at a club got her number flirted with her . But now our relationship has faded into a teasing funny type. I am not in the position to be direct with her but i am contemplating doing it?

SOS SOS SOS SOS SOS - really need to get this right, one night stands i can do but relationships are tricky

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It sounds like you are doing quite well in the initial stages of your sarges. You are getting girls attracted to the point that they giving you their number and you are texting.

Are you able to move from attraction to qualifying her? That's a stage you want to practise moving to next. Find out what she has to offer, why she is special. For example, you are getting attraction and her buying temperature is reliably spiking.

You say 'you really are cute when you are angry, I'm going to have to annoy you even more from now on' (attraction).

Then move to qualifiying, e.g. 'Actually, I do like girls who are in touch with their emotions. Tell me, is there more to you than just a party girl. Is there someone inside who laughs and cries and dreams?' (qualifying)

After she has qualified herself to you, you can qualify yourself back. That leads right into comfort.

E.g. 'That's exactly how I feel. We have these personas we show the world, we know how to have fun and party but sometimes I want someone to share things with, to hold hands with in the park, to look into their eyes and know you've got someone here who can understand what you are all about deep inside'.

From there, you can venue change and to an isolation location. In the isolation location, you can increase kino as you combine that attraction with the comfort and connection. A move to the sex location follows.

The actual words are not the point here, thought I have successfully used this type of script a lot. What is more important is the process of escalation and the feelings behind the words as you say them.

thanks alot bro , that seems correct. I am experienced in the field but when it comes to girls sitting on the rim of friendzone pool i fuck out. O it isnt a issue if this doesnt occur in one night? must i keep her in qualifying stage from now on and move straight to comfort or must i treat her as if i met her on the night as i have invited her to a party and she has accepted.

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Looks is irrelevant, confidence is the magic potion

You don't have to tell the girl you are into her. In fact, avoid that at all costs. She'll quickly figure out you are into her when you are touching her and sitting right next to her hugging her and feeling on her body and staring into her eyes. Do you think James Bond tells women "You're really pretty, I like you and want to bang you."

Assume attraction and proceed with confidence. Then if she gives you iod's or puts up resistance, don't really let it phase you and even act surprised that she is rejecting your advances...like you can't believe that someone would NOT be attracted to you.

There is a caveat here. It's the difference between being smooth and creepy. A creep will grope a woman and push himself on her when she is obviously not feeling him. A smooth guy might encounter the same type of resistance, but he won't be as overt and pushy about it. He'll stay calm and measured and look for another good opportunity to work his magic. Whereas a creeper will just go full bore with no regard for proper gaming strategy.

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Don't tell the girl you're into her? How would that affect a direct approach though?

it wouldnt be a direct approach anymore?

You don't ever have to say you're into a girl.
You can show you're into her and that works better.

But if you really want to say it you can say things like "Wow, you're making me horny, you gotta stop that before things go too far."

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