Just got out of a relationship/thing with an older lady, learned some things but didn't do anything online for around the past year. Mostly unremarkable women on okc as usual, but there was a Aussie gymnast, recent transplant to the area. Animal loving, brunette with blue eyes, likes harry potter, tea, etc... was half serious, half snarky, like my profile.

So this where I went with, see if I could get a decent response,

"Hello there *****. I'm J, buck toothed, cross eyed guy with a terrible lisp. I also have bad breath and massive insecurities. As long as I am being honest I also have a slight quasimodo'ish humpback and club feet. Kidding ****! Maybe.

My irreverent sarcasm aside I was hoping perhaps you'd be game to chat a bit. That is if you can forgive my plenitude of previously listed faults lol

Are you from Brisbane?"

She said,

Jan 9, 2013
"haha hey! I am from Brisbane!"

That's it. Rusty as I am, I have no idea how to transition from this point on. I want to close her out and quick. Suggestions?

I don't know if you've done anything with this in the last 2 days, but here's my $.02...

First off, I NEVER ask yes/no questions, at least not until they're obviously invested. Otherwise you get scenarios like this. Always make your questions/statements open-ended.

Here's a rough run-down of the routine I'm developing for girls who haven't committed to the convo yet:


ME: *opener*

HER: *short response like above*

ME: So what crazy shit did you do for New Year's? I heard Australians party pretty fuckin hard

HER: *blah dee blah*

ME: Holy shit, that's nuts. I like your style, lol. I'm gonna make you my pretend internet wife (I've been using this a lot lately and it is GREAT for building attraction. It also instantly adds some sexuality to the conversation, and you can take it in a million different directions as long as you keep it playful)


And if she still refuses to offer anything to the convo, I say something like, "Whoa, you're way too chatty. I don't know if this is going to work out." It's not gaurunteed, but a good amount of the time it gets them talking more, or at least cracks them up and drives them to explain themselves to you, i.e. they're at work or whatever

I like to use nicknames (NOT babe or ma, but shit like jelly bean, sugar biscuit, sugar foot, princess penguin, baby toe, just about anything that sounds cute or sweet, doesn't matter what words you actually use). It gives you a lot of color to stand out from other guys, and every so often you'll talk to a girl who gets a real kick out of it. I.e. if she's asian I'll call her "my little wonton" (though i'm really bad with differentiating Asian nationalities, so in this case I follow up with something like "I don't even know if that's the right ethnicity, lol" just to avoid offending her).



Hope this helps.

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Your opener screams "copy and paste" and agreed, don't ask yes or no questions.

You can use the classic and frame her as trouble.
"aha, I knew it. Brisbane girls are trouble! "

Yeah, I've found that copy+paste openers almost never work on OKC, while the very same ones do all right on POF.

Personalized messages on OKC are better, but keep them short. I've messaged girls "JUST HOW LOUD ARE YOU?" (she said in her profile she was loud) or "Have you tried kale? Because it's fucking magic" (hers said she was into healthy food). In this case, both girls answered (with somewhat longer responses), read my profile, and sent me another 1 or 2 messages about my profile before I even got back to them.

So, you don't have to read the whole thing. I sure as hell don't because they don't always respond and then I've just wasted all that time. In the future, OP, try picking one or two things out and run with those.

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Try to invest time onto that girl.

It was an error to stop the conversation right after she answered you. You have to ENGAGE with her when you start asking something. It's like when a friend does this:

Texts like these...

Your Friend: hey been a long time, we gotta do somthing!

Yourself: off course, when? :p

Your Friend: we'll arrange something up soon...


You know how those texts finish up? It finishes you never arrange something and you never see him again. It's the same thing for the conversation with that girl. If you ENGAGE, then CONTINUE or just forget about her...