A year and a half ago I caught HPV and showed signs of it for about a month. I believe my body has fought it off now as I have been "cleared" by all my doctors but, having an STD certainly carries a social stigma and can be a HUGE inconvenience.

I'm well educated about this virus but, I still don't know if I should tell people I have/had this shit (so far I've told every sexual partner about it). Recently, I kissed a girl and prior to sex informed her of possible risks she would be taking. She flipped out, big time. She said it could be transferred orally and I already fucked her over. I never had oral sex with the person I caught it from but, perhaps she's right.

If that's the case I'll have to tell every girl I kiss, every person that drinks after me, and so on. Is that really necessary? I don't believe I have oral HPV but, it's basically impossible to test for in the mouth this early in my life so I'm starting to have strange thoughts like I am some sort of parasite among everyone else.

Wasn't sure if this would go under general questions or social shyness & anxiety, perhaps it's a bit of both. If this is an incorrect posting location, apologies. I wonder if in ten years I will still need to tell potential partners or what not...

is this relevant to anyone else here, or have you been in this boat before?

oh and one last thing
be careful about this shit
they say up to 50% of sexually active Americans are positive.
I am now a statistic

Tricky as this stuff is so wide ranging. Some strands are essentially symptom less and 'don't really matter'. Some however can be very, very serious.

However, if you're not sure, I'd play on the safe side. Not sure about the law in the US, but in the UK, if you know - or have reason to believe - that you have or even might have a sexually transmitted infection, you can/will be committing a criminal offence by transmitting it without warning your partner. Even if you don't know for certain that it will transmit it, if you are reckless about it (ie; you think there is a risk but go ahead anyway), you can be committing a criminal offence if you don't warn of the possible risk.

Now, obviously if you can get yourself checked out, and you're given the all clear, then fine - no reason to mention ever having had it or maybe having had it, as long as you can't give it to her now.

If you can't get a proper test in your mouth at your age - ask your doctor if it's transmittable through oral sex or kissing. We aren't going to know on here - and you shouldn't be taking medical advice from an internet forum. Ask your doctor.

If the doctor says that it is or might be transmittable through your mouth, then you're going to have to tell all your partners or potential partners in my opinion. Not telling them would not only risk criminal liability, but it's also just wrong.

Find out from your doc, and then go from there.