Getting a girl to give you THEIR number



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A Sticking Point or SP is an issue you CONSISTENTLY run into.

It is NOT a point where you get stuck with ONE SPECIFIC GIRL.

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I keep getting LMR whenever I bring girls back to my place. This has happened at least 10 times already! What am I doing wrong?
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I got LMR with this one girl! What do I do?
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PostPosted: Fri Jan 04, 2013 9:36 pm 
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I'm pretty confident and have no problem giving the girls my number in day/night game, however, I have a problem with them offering me their number. I always seem to give them my number so I have to text. Wouldn't mind being the one chased for once haha any help would be appreciated. Thanks guys!


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PostPosted: Mon Jan 07, 2013 1:29 pm 
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You never give them your number without getting theirs first. Never.

Typically guys have to ask for the girls number, or tell her to give it to them (which I prefer).

If you want them to just give you their number, then it's a little trickier. But it can be done. What you do is build rapport and start talking about doing things that they'd also like to do. Use NLP and talk about how you and they could do such-and-such together. But don't mention getting their number. You can say "We'd have a lot of fun together" or "We should hang out sometime" but don't go any further than that. Let them come to the realization that if they want to hang out with you agian then THEY will need to give you their number.

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PostPosted: Mon Jan 07, 2013 1:50 pm 
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I had this same issue... for me it came down to a fear of rejection - I knew that if I left a conversation with a girl's number the ball would still be in my court and I would still have to make another attempt at "getting her approval" - for a date, for a reply, for what ever. And walking away with this extra stress felt terrible.

So I got in the habit of NOT getting a girl's number unless I had already lined up a first date.

I found it easier to "take the risk" of inviting her to join me somewhere else when I already had a great vibe going with her, as opposed to calling/texting her at a later time when she might be in a completely different mood.

I don't recall where I learned this... perhaps DeAngelo? In any case it saved me a tonne of wasted stress when I tried to close all new interactions with a planned date, or with an impromptu instant date (by going for a coffee right on the spot, or a drink at another venue together.)

Soooooo... have you tried simply lining up an instant date, or future get together right on the spot?

This way it makes sense to exchange numbers incase plans change.

For example, "Hey... you seem really cool... you know what, my friends and I are jumping to this other club in 10 minutes... how about you and your friends join us there? Great, let's exchange numbers so we can meet up again!"

Or, "Listen, I want to talk with you some more but I have to run unfortunately... There's this super cute coffee hut down the street from here, do you know it? Great, how about you grab a coffee with me there tonight... let's say after dinner around 7? Great, let's exchange numbers incase plans change."

Or what ever.

In any case, I've met enough women to know that even if they are SUPER into you they will still want YOU to lead the interactions... it's WAY more attractive to her if YOU take HER number.

Of course it's nice when the girl does all the chasing... but what's more satisfying as a man? When a girl takes your hand and helps you cross the street? Or when you lead HER by the hand? Getting HER number is YOU LEADING.

Don't fret taking her number and doing all the initial work... it's what leading is all about - taking the risks of rejection (because it's what makes you manly and attractive.)

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PostPosted: Mon Jan 14, 2013 3:42 am 
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Everything that has been said is great: Get a future together in her mind (probably a specific activity or date idea), then simply get her number so that you can hang out some time. Loading up a bajillion ideas, I've found, is more effective than creating a single idea, because they then can see themselves with you in a number of scenarios and will be interested in "hanging out" not in one activity they may or may not be attracted to.

I will disagree strongly with puaninja on one point, though. His view certainly has merit, and I understand why you wouldn't want to be in a position where no girl is GIVING you her number, but I find it much more confident, assertive, etc, to give the girl your number. It's an instant "Take it or leave it" rather than neediness. Plus, a lot of weird guys hit on women all the time. More often than normal guys like us. Just check out some of the strangeness that runs even on this forum! Women are wary of guys hitting on them. And if you give them that space, it not only shows you are not desperate, but also that they can trust you not to be weird. You giving them the option of whether or not to contact you gives them an opportunity to reflect and decide "Yeah, that guy was cool." Powerful.

Tip: If you give a girl your number and she doesn't text/call you, then either you didn't have a chance to begin with, or else you would have had so much work ahead of you to turn it around, it wasn't worth it. Set her up, have her call YOU. Just my opinion.

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