I'm back home from college and working seasonally at a job. I meet this HB7 and we hit it off. But she has a live-in boyfriend who treats her like crap. She's 19. She starts to like me, even admits it to me, and at first I say I don't like you, but then I say I do. We start fooling around behind his back. She's fed up with him and wants to leave him. She does leave him, after all her friends and family say to leave him and go with me.

She felt really guilty about hurting him, though and less than 24 hours after they broke up, she's telling me that she's been acting really selfish if only because she wants to be with me and she's been hurting people and therefore doesn't want to be with me anymore. Not because her feelings are gone by any stretch but because she doesn't want to hurt people.

I said you want to be with him more than me? she couldn't give me a straight answer so I said okay here's what's gonna happen I'm gonna walk out that door and you're never gonna see or hear from me ever again. I hope he treats you the way I would have.

Apparently he promised her things would be different this time. Of course, if he knew she had cheated on him, he wouldn't even give her that chance and he's a lazy good for nothing pothead anyway. But what's my play here? Do you think she'll come back? She gave me a kiss on the cheek when I left. Not that I wanted it. I don't get it how one night you're about to sleep with me (we didn't have a condom) and less than a day later you're running back to your old bf? Should I have pursued? I wasn't about to beg. Will she contact me again? She unfriended me (not blocked) on Facebook later that night. She said she felt like she could love me, whereas she currently loves him (they've dated for 3 years now). It's just like all this bs she threw me about how it felt different with me, being with me felt better than being with anyone else she had been with, she only wants me, yada yada it's just a big kick in the balls. Advice?

Hey ,

It is pretty messed up in here...Yes , You were both messing behind his back..She said she likes you and Things were awesome BlaBla... and Then the moment She Gave you a chance to prove that you are much better then Him .... BOoom . Guilt feeling , and that's a really bad thing...Cause when some Feels seriously guilty , He will try as hard as he can To Make things go back the way they were...and that means Not being able to be with you ...so What You should have did , instead of Leaving that way ... is to Move that Guilt from her , and Put it on her Boyfriend ..WITHOUT including yourself ....especially The moment she told you that she couldn't be with you ...But that's Okay . You should have said things like : This was totally for your best...He was a jerk ... and You are totally right , I think we should Stop talking for a moment , You should give yourself a break ....and You kiss her on her check instead of having her kissing you . And then you leave. Now in Your situation , The best thing is to move on ...and Go for other chicks..and if you were lucky...she will contact you again . Never speak to her until she do ..Good luck mate !

I won't contact her. So she went back to him simply because she felt guilty? Is she gonna come runnin back as soon as he starts acting like an idiot again? Was it anything I did?

shes an airhead..forget and next. its a pity you didnt have the rubber though..thats the big lesson here always be prepared

I will but for future how is she an airhead? What am I missing?

I want him, i dont want him, i want you, now i want him again--that whole girl who doesnt know what she wants thing has been overplayed by them..its old..its boring..only an airhead girl would still be using it..its the girl equivalent of ''do you come here often''

So I shouldn't blame myself for how it ended up? And is she gonna end up contacting me as soon as he starts treating her like shit again? I don't want to date her but I would like the chance to f-close. And is this like a Stockholm syndrome battered woman thing? But again do I blame myself? Or would she have run back to him no matter what?

It was not your fault.yes some women thrive on the whole 'he treated me like shit'thing its generaly for sympathy and conversation piece with their female friends.I donno if youll hear from her again but on the balance of probabilities id go with 80/20 in favour that she will be in touch.

I jus had drinks with some fellow coworkers and without me knowing they started texting her that I missed her and really liked her. She texte back she really likes me so they said call me thinking I'd like that. She said it wouldn't be a good idea because she has a boyfriend. Idk why they did what they did but it wasn't me :/ crap

Does this affect my chances at all? I mean now because of my friends she thinks I really miss her and like her and while she did say she liked me too idk. And I'm even more confused because if she did like me why did she go back to him?

I feel like my best chance is to ignore her and go no contact like we said. Are my chances still 80/20 since I myself haven't contacted her?

Did your friends use your phone to contact her or their own phones

Their phone. She was talking to them. She was like did e ask you to contact me and they're like no why would he do that? So yeah no they contacted her from their phone.

MOst of these dudes on here dont know is that between the ages of 16-19 a girl is going threw her attention whore stage which means her little slut stage. All girls on planet earth has to go threw this stage even your mom, aunt, and grandma went threw it, just like every man has to go threw his player stage and then later we"ll settle down to the right chick.. Dont trip off of her because right now shes considered as a "JUMP OFF" and what that means is shes jumping off to dude to dude playing MUSICAL DICKS like a fucking circus clown.. DONT let her confusion confuse you brotha. DONT let her personal issues your fault .. shes going threw her stage so let her get it out her system on her own just like you need to get your player stage out your system.. Keep searching and hollerin at new girls and upgrade yourself and drop that bitch. Or charge her to the game and check her ass on that.. if she still playing games just drop her

LOOSE THE CHOOSIE SUZIE !

MOst of these dudes on here dont know is that between the ages of 16-19 a girl is going threw her attention whore stage which means her little slut stage. All girls on planet earth has to go threw this stage even your mom, aunt, and grandma went threw it, just like every man has to go threw his player stage and then later we"ll settle down to the right chick.. Dont trip off of her because right now shes considered as a "JUMP OFF" and what that means is shes jumping off to dude to dude playing MUSICAL DICKS like a fucking circus clown.. DONT let her confusion confuse you brotha. DONT let her personal issues your fault .. shes going threw her stage so let her get it out her system on her own just like you need to get your player stage out your system.. Keep searching and hollerin at new girls and upgrade yourself and drop that bitch. Or charge her to the game and check her ass on that.. if she still playing games just drop her

LOOSE THE CHOOSIE SUZIE !