I dont know whats wrong with me but i keep getting friendzoned!, i meet the girl, flirt, get her attracted! go to comefort zone we start talking bout more personal stuff i make her laugh and i tell her we should go see a movie or something let her kno i wana kiss her you know what i mean when we start talking bout it and then she kinda flirts back and then out of no where i get the "im sorry Odie im just not looking for anything right now"! what do i do wrong?! am i to friendly. need help!

- AFC Odie

That's where you went wrong.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

Yeah man, don't talk about kissing her if you haven't done it before. Complete certainty kills attraction! What's more fun, you go to a woman's house when you know you're going to fuck her, or she invites you over to watch a movie?

There's more tension in sex if it's spontaneous.

And you're talking about KISSING?!

It sounds like you really need to raise you're status as well. Read into this stuff, it will change you for the better.

lmaooooo! now that i think about it, i sound kind of stupid bahah, i guess what my problem is that, i tried making her comfortable with the fact that she should be expecting me to kiss her in real life through text message, so that if i do kiss her she doesnt say no or something i dont know what i was thinking lol. but if i dont want to get friend zoned do i have to spend less time talking to them on text? some times when i meet a girl and get to kno her we text for hours cuz we cant talk cuz we will both be out, but i wouldn call her at night? maybe thats my problem lol... very confused

Don't worry about that, just as long as you don't mention kissing through text. If she agrees to go out with you, and you can tell that the attraction is there, you're going to have to just kiss her. Use compliance tests and kino, it will be obvious whether you have to create more attraction or not. Wait till she's midway through a sentence and just lean in.

Or, say "I've got something for you. Remind me to give you it later."

Time passes...

"Ok, so where's me present?" Then, you tell her to hold her hand out and close her eyes. When she does, take her hand, lean in and kiss her.

This basically stems from the theory that certainty kills attraction. Be spontaneous, she will love this.


Of course, none of this is going to help you if you're trying to build comfort before you create attraction. It's a linear process:

ATTRACTION ---> COMFORT ---> CLOSE

(From Mystery's handout)
Now if you start building comfort before the attraction is there, you won't have the attraction, and it will be weird when you try and force it on. You're problem might lie here.

True story. Back in the day my AFC buddy and I were fledgling pot dealers. This mexican girl he liked called and asked for some green. He was like "Will you give me a kiss if I get it for you?" Well apparently that didn't go over too well so when we met her in a parking lot to deliver the goods, some very unhappy looking cholos hopped out of the truck and uncerimoniously relieved my buddy of the weed (without paying) and told him that you don't talk to mexican girls like that.

So yea, apparently you shouldn't mention kissing a girl while talking on the phone either.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

Woah, thanks alot speedy thats good! what do you think i should do if the girl starts being dry through texts, that was a good line you said lol, and thanks ninja for the story ill keep that in mind bahaha.