Hey guys.

I just wanted some feedback on what I've been using to open on OKC, how I can improve it, and specifically what to do to initiate conversation.

Response rates seem to be about 20-30%. Everyone reads my profile, though. But that doesn't really say much.

"So, a quick glance at your profile left me feeling like we're pretty similar people. Smart, fun, [reference a description or activity, based on her profile], endearingly quirky, etc, etc, etc.

I have two theories:

A) Unless you have some sort of weird self-loathing complex, we should get along splendidly.
B) Magnets. We're so similar we'll just end up repelling each other.

Either way, I think we should find out.

-Name"

Usually after signing, I resort to asking how long people have been in town, or what cool hangout spots they'd recommend to someone who's new. But this just feels so awkward to me. Anyone have any tips?

I'm not exactly qualified to give you an extensive review, but one thing that stood out to me is... Don't ask her for any COOL spots and tell her that you're new, that's DLV.

What kind of response rate are you getting with that opener? It is straight forward which is good, but seems a little bland. You want to evoke some emotion in the girl when she reads your message.

Note:
Are you actually new to the area? If you are not, don't pretend that you are. If you are new to the area, you need to work on getting yourself settled, finding a couple of spots you enjoy hanging out (2-4) and actually spend some time there meeting the servers/host/manager/regulars. Become decent enough friends with them that you will be recognized and know their names. I agree that you should not ask the girl where the cool spots are, as it is a bit of a DLV. Take her to one of your spots and then talk about places she likes to hang. It makes it much more casual and shows you are interested in her likes/dislikes.

With online dating it is common to have to travel 50 miles or so to meet new people, if this is the case then I suggest googling clubs/bars in the girls town and suggesting one of them to meet her for the first time. Think casual and quiet for a first meeting. Most girls will know that if you live 50 miles away, you're probably not very familliar with the spots in their town.


Peace...

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