I've been reading up on some material on how to be alpha, mainly some Ebooks I've read and various posts I've read on the forum and one thing that is more or less in everything I've read so far is to have an uncaring attitude, almost like you don't care if you get laid or not.

I totally understand the reasoning behind this but I'm struggling to make the link between having an uncaring attitude towards women and actually caring enough to approach them and begin conversations, for example if I were in a nightclub I'm still unsure if I should be approaching girls because would this make me look as if I have a caring attitude ?. I'm probably taking the uncaring attitude thing a bit too literally and I'm still a noob to PUA.

My question is how do you be uncaring but still care enough to approach girls ??

Pretend for a minute that you weren't some AFC who is desperately looking to meet girls and have sex. Let's say you were just an alcoholic or something, and you hang out at bars in your free time. That is where you go for entertainment, and the people there are who entertain you. If it's hot girls, then so be it. If it's dudes, that's cool too. Either way, you'd probably talk to them, make some jokes, try to impress them with some story about how cool you think you are. That's just part of human nature and how we interact with each other. You wouldn't care about approaching them wrong or saying the wrong things. You'd just go talk to them and shoot the shit because you have nothing to gain or lose from doing so. They are just people in the background of your life during that stint at the bar. Tomorrorw there will be new people for you to do the same thing with and it won't matter then either.

That is the attitude you have to have in set. It's like you are there because you really enjoy being you and hanging out at that place doing whatever you are doing. You aren't there to pick up chicks (eventhough you are). You are there to have a good time and if you just so happen to make a connection with a girl (which you are) then so be it. What you don't want to do is make it seem like you really care about the girl liking you or telegraphing interest in her. That is why they say to act uncaring/aloof and free from outcome. Because why would a guy care if some random stranger doesn't like him?

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Yeah basically being uncaring means being detached from the outcome. You flirt with girls because you're a confident, sexually energetic man... But you don't give a shit what happens, which makes you non-needy. You confidently present yourself, and either the girls wants to bang you, or she doesn't...in which case forget her and move on. There are millions of girls better than her out there.

It might help to think "I don't care about girls, I just care about fulfilling my sexual desires" that way you have an uncaring attitude towards girls, but still do the things you need to do to get laid (like approaching, building comfort and attraction, etc.)

Just make sure you don't masturbate when having this mindset, because you mind end up not caring about girls, and just fulfill your sexual desires by visiting xvideos or something... So you lose both ways.

Good luck man. You'll make it one day.

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It means that you should not giving too much thought on the result that you will get. If you want to approach a girl on a club, then do it. Have a conversation with her. But, you don't need to expect to get laid or something. Just let the conversation flow. It is also called a non-attachment.

Regards,
Jake

I'm confused. Your original post says you are 24, have never dated a girl. Now you're on here and giving advice instead of tryin to learn from others?

Oh wait, your username is AlphaConfidence and you made this account to give your own thread props.

Give it up dude, you're busted. I'm willing to bet you both have the same IP address

Care but don't worry.
Simple as that! Now when I say care, I mean take the basic care you would living your awesome life in the moment and don't worry about what happen or worry about the consequences. This keeps you both present and detaches you from the outcome.

Let's cut it all down to one statement

"I don't worry about the outcome or what others think because I'm too busy being myself and having the time of my life living right now"

If you can truly Internalize the Idea it might break your world right open. The basic concept though is all indifference. Now since being alpha is also about being a man and taking charge that's where the care factor comes in. Since your taking charge and being in control your putting even the most basic of care into the situation by leading and being dominant. This would mean if you don't agree with something or have a better Idea you'd care enough to say something while still being indifferent in the end.