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PostPosted: Thu Dec 27, 2012 11:50 am 
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I live in a town where almost EVERYONE my age knows me. I mean seriously, I'm a dancer and I'm popular with people.
The problem is, I've never EVER been really social with people ever. I haven't ever gone out in the town "just like that" alone, just to explore what's around here.

So I don't know what's in the town or anything, I've been to the centre and I know a few places people gather up at, but no idea what to do out there.

I always think, "If I go out, people will see me and wonder why am I out, they might come up and ask me and I don't want to be bothered by anyone."
"If I walk around the town just to look around people might think I'm weird."


It wouldn't be a problem approaching a girl, it's just that I can't get myself to go out of my house.
I'm 17 and I go to a school that's not far. PLUS there's really nothing I'd want to do out in the town, so I really need a reason, else, the nearest reason to go out somewhere would be me doing graffiti on my houses walls.


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Leaving the house is a capital matter to improve your Gaming, bro. In fact, you could Game anywhere - the grocery store, the local movie theater, the mall, even school!

If people see you and wonder why you're out and about, fuck'em! They're living in your reality, where you are Alpha and they are the AFCs. If they ever ask you why you're here, just smile and tell them, "Don't worry about it."

You're almost done with high school, man, and once you're finally in college, sooooo many doors open to your favor, it's craaaazy!! Just practice getting out of the house and make small talk with strangers to help you crawl out of your comfort zone. And if people stop and stare, it's because you're not the boring, mundane, and typical person everyone else expects you to be! Alphas love the attention 8)

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Leaving the house is a capital matter to improve your Gaming, bro. In fact, you could Game anywhere - the grocery store, the local movie theater, the mall, even school!

If people see you and wonder why you're out and about, fuck'em! They're living in your reality, where you are Alpha and they are the AFCs. If they ever ask you why you're here, just smile and tell them, "Don't worry about it."

You're almost done with high school, man, and once you're finally in college, sooooo many doors open to your favor, it's craaaazy!! Just practice getting out of the house and make small talk with strangers to help you crawl out of your comfort zone. And if people stop and stare, it's because you're not the boring, mundane, and typical person everyone else expects you to be! Alphas love the attention 8)
Thanks, dude, and just when I was thinking about "Who I am" and things like that. Sooooo gonna add this to myself, so much advancement in the nearest time. Fuck yeah. p;


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Leaving the house is a capital matter to improve your Gaming, bro. In fact, you could Game anywhere - the grocery store, the local movie theater, the mall, even school!

If people see you and wonder why you're out and about, fuck'em! They're living in your reality, where you are Alpha and they are the AFCs. If they ever ask you why you're here, just smile and tell them, "Don't worry about it."

You're almost done with high school, man, and once you're finally in college, sooooo many doors open to your favor, it's craaaazy!! Just practice getting out of the house and make small talk with strangers to help you crawl out of your comfort zone. And if people stop and stare, it's because you're not the boring, mundane, and typical person everyone else expects you to be! Alphas love the attention 8)
Thanks, dude, and just when I was thinking about "Who I am" and things like that. Sooooo gonna add this to myself, so much advancement in the nearest time. Fuck yeah. p;
No probs, menggg. Every now and then, people would ask themselves, "Who am I???" The answer doesn't come from the outside where people decide who you are meant to be; rather, as cliche as it sounds, the answer comes from within. Sometimes, you gotta make a choice that'll defy who you are and what you believe in. People change over time, and your true self will slowly rise to the surface. Your identity will come at it's own pace - you can't force it or it'll never come. Like I said, college is where it's at :)

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You kind of remind me of myself. I hate being interactive with others. Dont get me wrong I am not a person who plays games or just stays home alone. I find myself to be less personal due to the fact I dont care to get into other peoples business and i dont want them into mine. I like to do my own things and lets other live their life without judging mine.

The best advice I can give is go clubbing or whatever you do at night by yourself. Literally grab those bulls horns and take control of your life by accomplishing goals to meet your changes. Think of it like this if you were to die tomorrow, what would you do differently today to be more happy with your life. Does that mean working out, studying more, reading an extra book... OR GOING SARGING!! Its different for us all, so decide what is important and focus to achieve it and be successful at it.

When you go sarging by yourself the first approach will be the hardest. How I get over the anxiety is simply thinking of something so bad in my life whereby it makes me forget the fears and go out as if that moment was the last words coming out of mouth. After the first 2-3 approaches u will be in that zone where you will approach 5-10 straight. Use indirect approach at first then switch as you get more comfartable.

Check out my 10 year challenge post!


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You kind of remind me of myself. I hate being interactive with others. Dont get me wrong I am not a person who plays games or just stays home alone. I find myself to be less personal due to the fact I dont care to get into other peoples business and i dont want them into mine. I like to do my own things and lets other live their life without judging mine.

The best advice I can give is go clubbing or whatever you do at night by yourself. Literally grab those bulls horns and take control of your life by accomplishing goals to meet your changes. Think of it like this if you were to die tomorrow, what would you do differently today to be more happy with your life. Does that mean working out, studying more, reading an extra book... OR GOING SARGING!! Its different for us all, so decide what is important and focus to achieve it and be successful at it.

When you go sarging by yourself the first approach will be the hardest. How I get over the anxiety is simply thinking of something so bad in my life whereby it makes me forget the fears and go out as if that moment was the last words coming out of mouth. After the first 2-3 approaches u will be in that zone where you will approach 5-10 straight. Use indirect approach at first then switch as you get more comfartable.

Check out my 10 year challenge post!
Yeah, it's something like that, other people bore the fuck out of me.
The worst thought I can think of is how life is so fucking boring and that I want something interesting and weird to finally happen and that I'm different than anyone else and I don't give a fuck about that. (I think that's the best one really.)


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