Girls love the chase. Im sure we have all heard this before. After doing PUA for a few years i have become very good at opening, gained skills in building initial attraction, but i have noticed i can get to this point everytime and then the attraction fades. After looking at my game I really it has to be that I am always doing the chasing, and not being chased. I always think about what i should say or do, instead of what i should make them do. I am a beginner when it comes to making girls chase me. Can any fellow PUA's who think they are experienced with this give any suggestions. general or specific would be appreciated

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This is and has always been the case mate. Girls love 'the chase' because they arent used to it, especially attractive ones. They are used to having the power, getting the compliments, getting drinks bought and having guys chase after them, therefore to go for one of these guys just doesnt appeal to them as it holds no value, its not a challenge therefore making it boring to them. As soon as a guy takes that power away, by throwing in negs, not paying her attention like everyone else etc. she will instantly try and get more attention from him, therefore chasing after him.

From personal experience i find that when i start hanging out with other girls, or not paying her as much attention, she suddenly lusts after me and comes crawling back. A favourite quote of mine from the book - 'The Game', is "you have to be willing to lose the girl in order to get her", or something along those lines. This really applies to this situation.. If you act like you have other options (other girls) and that this girl isnt the be all and end all of the world and that you dont need to chase her, then you will find she suddenly tries a lot harder to get your attention.

You can also try and demonstrate higher value or social proof, by being the life of a party, and again ignoring her a bit.. talking to her friends more than her and paying them attention, especially her guy friends. Gain control of the guys and obstacles and you have gained control of the girl

Zeus

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Wise men don't need advice. Fools won't take it. - Benjamin Franklin

The chase is a delicate dance. It's the embodiment of push/pull. You pull them to you then push them away.

Let's face it, most girls aren't just going to start chasing you. And if they are, then you won't need this advice. So you'll still need to initiate the chase and dangle the string in front of them to get them interested, then yank it away to get to chase after it. It's like you are going up to them and saying "Hey, you're really beautiful and smart and interesting and I think you would have a lot of fun with me and we should get together and have a blast!" Then when she's like "Sure" you reply with "I'm busy now."

It's a two stage process. The first part is showing them the goods--showing them you are high value and worthy of them. The second part is the take-away. It's like: "See all that good shit I just showed you? Yea, you can't have that."

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

I completely forgot about that quote in The Game. Definitely something to keep in mind. Great feedback from both of you guys thanks. Push/Pull has always been a weakness of mine which i guess would explain the higher numbers in one night stands than relationships haha

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FAIL PROOF PICK UP LINE: excuse my, im sorry to bother you but my father beats me, can i have your number.

Yea, that "don't be afraid to lose the girl to get the girl" thing is very important, particularly in relationships. I have battle tested this on many occassions and it almost always worked to my advantage. Once the girl realizes that you don't need her and can easily find someone to replace her, she has almost no leverage over you anymore. Then she has to start playing by your rules.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

This is the complete truth. Although it may seem harsh.. unless a girl is playing by your rules, she will get bored and could leave/look elsewhere. You need to be in control of the game, then she will always be on her toes and never bored, constantly trying to get your validation/approval.

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Wise men don't need advice. Fools won't take it. - Benjamin Franklin

well does anyone have their 2 cents to add as to how to really get them to chase you? any rules you go by, any do's/ dont's. For me if a girl is not initiating texts me with I generally only text her once every few days. Thats a no brainer though

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