So I took this girl out this weekend to a bar in central, everything was going great she was laughing out loud (embarrassing! but I loved it).

anyways she brings up past relationships and I say yeah all great nothing bad to say and that I was just not compatible with any of them.

Then she makes it all weird and tells me she was raped when she was 15 back in her country (Serbia)

I felt really awkward after she said that, it completely killed the mood for me.
so my question is.
is she too damaged to date? or am I being a prick in feeling really uncomfortable?
has anyone had something similar happen?

Can't say I've ever heard that one before. But regardless of a person's past, I'm more interested in their present state and future. Does she seem over it? What did she learn from all of it. What does she believe about herself?

People go through all sorts of trauma in life. What makes a woman attractive to me is how much they take and learn from that trauma and where they are going in life.

I would admit that her bringing it up makes you uncomfortable because it's not something you're used to dealing with, and ask her for help with it. If she's able to help get you over it, that's a good sign that it's a red flag you don't have to worry about in the future.

my 2nd date with a girl was the same she was raped and shes moving out of town because of the person still living in our city vancouver.

shes soooo freakin awesome though, Iv seen her facebook and how everyones ganna miss her and how awesome she was for being strong. Shes also stoner chick and had blue hair which i found realy attractive and I also got high for free for the first time with her.

she moved out above and I thank her for spending her time with me cuz damn it was one of the most memorable moments of my life.

anyways, like above said, if she went thru the experience and came out bettter person then it shud be no worry. hardships can build or destroy character.

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The past is the past. If you hold onto it it would only drag you and the possible relationship down with it.

My Ex and my current girlfriend had the same issue. Ex was raped when she was 15. Current girlfriend was taken advantage when she was young as well. The important thing to get out of this is: if she tell you something this sensitive, then you should treat the subject like any sensitive subject. Also it means she feel safe and comfortable enough to share her dark past with you.

Though there are girls who tell it like a childhood comedy store or lie to get sympathy or attention. Either way I wouldn't test if she was lying or telling the truth because usually you know of a drama queen and a hurt individual.

Enjoy your time with her. If the subject makes you uncomfortable, let her know.

Yeah, thanks for the advice guys.

I just wanted to make sure that I am not biting more then I can chew, Just got out of a LTR and don't want someone who is as unstable ( emotionally ) as I currently am.

Don’t think about it. Don’t mention it. Don’t bring it up. Don’t hint towards it. Don’t even think about thinking about it. Her past is one of those things that are better left where they belong. Thinking about a girl’s past can ONLY have negative consequences. It might make you feel insecure, confused, helpless, but it’ll never do any good. Guys are trained to think this way because society wants to turn us into beta males without balls. Remember, most things in society work endlessly to EMASCULATE us. Beta males think about if their girlfriends were slutty before, because they are insecure about their OWN image. If she cheats on YOU, then she’s gone. If she cheated on a chump before you, it might have been more his fault than hers.

Now, make sure you don’t take this advice to the extreme. If she’s an ex-serial killer or has cheated on the last 6 out of 7 boyfriends she’s had, you should probably still stay away. But for the most part, you shouldn’t stick your nose into her past. It won’t do you any good. TRUST ME, it will be better for you to just ignore it. Sometimes your girlfriend may ask you “Does that bother you?” That’s a test to see how confident and secure you are in yourself. Girls always throw these types of tests at their boyfriends, without consciously realizing it. Don’t say “yes” and try and use it as leverage in your relationship, it might make her feel bad, but it’ll lower her interest level, and damage her self-esteem among other things. You want to keep her on the edge always feeling like she has to get your attention and please you, but you don’t to bring down your girlfriends self-esteem. Don’t make her feel like she’s completely validated, and don’t make her feel rejected. Keep her in limbo. The more experience you have, the more you’ll realize how true this is.

Lastly, you might feel like this is “bottling up” your feelings. That’s bitch talk for acting like a man and having control over your emotions. Beta males snoop around their girlfriends past because they have huge fragile egos and constantly feel the need to “possess.” Alpha males don’t have egos. Think about how her past DIRECTLY affects you, it usually doesn't. It just affects your mind, and your emotions.

Thanks man. Having thought about it, you are 100% on the ball there.
It just really put me off when she told me that, I feel as though I'm constantly walking on eggshells around her now.
Its just something that I will have to overcome to be a better more confident man.