| The opener is not something I would personally use, but that's the beauty of this game - it's whatever YOU feel comfortable with opening. If you believe it and feel comfortable executing it, so will she.
I had the same problem as you. I did some self-analysis, and realized that I was doing 2 things: 1) relying on an opener to take me somewhere afterward; 2) when it didn't, expected her to carry the conversation, and when she did not, I was stuck between "chasing" her with another subject (AFC move) or locking up and ending the conversation (AFC move). The way I corrected it:
1) An opener is just that - an opener. Yes, you can DHV with an opener. Yes, you can do a LOT with it. But in the end, it's just that - an opener. Good PUAs often don't remember what their opener was. It's like a boxing match - you don't just throw a jab. You keep throwing punches even if the first one connected. So treat an opener as just an ice breaker, not something that will lead into something else necessarily.
2) After the opener, I immediately launch into something situational (Note: this works for me. I know others use rune readings, esp, magic, whatever - I suck at that stuff, but I am good at storytelling and C&F so I work with what I got). I usually find something on her (clothing, jewelry, etc.), someone in the crowd I can talk about and use that as the jumping off point.
This was not easy, for me at least. It took some practice to snap out of the standard AFC ways.
Lastly, one thing Style wrote in his book that I think is crucial: To get the girl, you must be willing to risk losing her. Be yourself, try new things, and if she walks away, so be it. It will get better. _________________ "There's a thousand yous, but only one of me..."
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