My wife is moving out today & its way more difficult than I thought it would be.
I am being a wimpy, needy sook, I am doing everything that will make things worse.

If she would take me back, I would do it in a second & would give up all of the things I like just to keep her.

I know that logically its stupid but I just feel in a really dark place at the moment. I know its over, I just want advice for anyone thats been in the same situation on how to get over the pain as fast as possible.

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Dude - If you will it, it is no dream

Try to find yourself a new hobby or something that would take your mind off things. The only way to forget about it is to do something you find interesting, such as sports, music, art etc. Life is too short to worry about these things. She has made up her mind, it's time to move on. Hang out with your fellow friends and meet new girls. There are plenty of fish in the sea and if you seek, you shall find. Take time to improve yourself in all aspects of life. There are bad times in life, but good times are only around the corner. Stay positive

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Learn from your mistakes, don't make the same mistakes twice.

Hey man I can sympathize with your situation because I recently went through a difficult break up in which I lived with her for 3 years, we were very close! best friends! and when we broke up I was crushed....I promise you something, and I know its hard to understand this with all the emotional crap your probably feeling, it will get better! a lot better!

The first week you will feel like shit, you will cry, you will have feelings that you don't understand, and you will question everything....just let it happen, let your emotions poor out, find close friends and family you can talk to, good people who can support you.

Now only let this phase last for a short time! take a few days to feel like shit and just get your emotions out, after that its time to pick your self up and start to rebuild your life. It won't be easy but day by day you will start to heal and find your self again, you will grow as a person.

Start reading!!! and always keep busy, go to the gym, eat healthy, hang out with friends....at first it will be tough to go out but force your self even if its just for a couple hours, and eventually your will rediscover your self.

I want you to do a few things alright?

-Go get a gym membership tomorrow, work out 4 days, that one of your new goals
- Get rid of all junk food in your house, your now going to eat healthy
- Buy the books erroneous zones by wayne dyer and awaken the giant within by tony robins
- set 20 mins aside each day to mediate, learn how to black out negative thoughts
- Go out with friends at least 2 nights a week
- Try one new "thing" each week, a cooking class, dance, yoga, I don't care but go alone and meet new people

Try do follow this and it will make things much easier! it will also fill your time and help you realize you don't need your ex to be happy.

I promise you brother it will get easier, its time for you to experience life! its an exciting time for you! when one door closes another one always opens and you will look back at this and smile.

I don't know your relationship or anything about you but when I look back on my relationship I can see that I'm much better off! as much as I love my ex it really is her loss...there are not many quality men out there like my self. I also have created abundance in my life...I have so many women around me right now and I have only been dating for a couple weeks...im texting with two girls right now as we speak lol

I don't know the particulars of your situation. Like was it her decision to leave, mutual, yours? But here's something I found that helped me out when my wife and I first separated. Helps explain a lot of the regret and panic feelings that make you want to stay in a shitty relationship.

Not sure it totally relates to your situation, but thought I'd share just in case.

Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
Many people involved in long-term relationships find that they have given up their dreams, plans and future to "fit" into someone else's. The difficulty in breaking up often stems from people forgetting how to be self-sufficient. This creates a fear of loss and insecurity, which fuels the desire to keep unhealthy relationships together.
Neder says that we need to understand that we're alone throughout our entire lives — even when we're with someone else. "It's not a bad thing," says Dr. Neder, "in fact, it is quite freeing for most people."


Best of luck to you man! Hang in there.

Oh yeah, one more thing. Feel free to share your situation with us here. Maybe we could learn some things from your situation, and getting an outside perspective and talking about stuff surely won't hurt ya.

Thanks for the responses, they have lifted me just knowing that others have or are going through the same thing.

We still live together, still sleep in the same bed but there is no feeling there. I dont blame her, we have been together 15 years & sometimes we change into different people over that length of time.

I have been excercising like crazy & my weight is dropping like a stone. Also taken up weights, something that I could never do when I was younger - never able to wait for the results.

Where I excercise I make conversation & say hello to any girl I find attractive. I have explained to my wife that as far as I am concerned we are both now single & can do as we please.

I cannot say it is easy but its better than a week ago.

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Dude - If you will it, it is no dream

I went through this awkward stage as well. I highly suggest getting your ass out of the house. Find another place to go. It's far easier to get over a failed relationship, or determine if you want to resurrect it, when you don't see each other at all. Being in the same place just leads to thoughts when you want to bust a nut of fucking the shit out of her. Which I did, and then felt shitty about because of where we were at in the relationship. Additionally, it sucks ass and can make you go beta when you see her getting interest from someone else.

My advice: Get some space, and clear your head. Use that time to think about yourself and your life. Let the shock pass, prove to yourself you can still survive and be pretty happy, and when all that shit has subsided some, think about what you really want.

Best of luck with the holidays if you are still sleeping in the same bed. I've been there, and it just blows because if some chick says hi back, you can't take her home, and if they find out you're still living with your ex, well, you know, that's just not going to help you.

Merry Christmas man.