Hi everyone,

I am despair! I have trouble with my confidence when approaching women... How can I gain confidence? What advice do you give me to overcome my problem? What do you recommend me to do, to watch or to read??

Thanks indeep!

The only main tried & tested way is to just submerge yourself in that area until it becomes more natural to you.
For me I used to be terrible on approaching, so I set out with the objective of getting 'rejected' by every set I approached. Surprisingly even though I was trying hard to get blown out it wasn't that easy to succeed.

If you can come back to me with a specific area of the approach I'll try to be of more help.

Thanks

Mick

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x9pDfwsaOJI

download it as mp3 and listen to it in loop everynight

if you get 8 hours of sleep itll be repeated in your head 80X every subliminal message in the video every night.

in the daytime, go out there and get outside your comfort zone.
start with high 5s and asking people for food.
cuz clearly its not women your afraid of, its the rejection or embarrasment

so go actually do something embarrasing and go get rejected.
say the most absurd pickup lines and smile doing it.

theyll def smile back when you own and believe in yourself and know nothing can harm you.

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I heard the loop. I kinda fell into a trance. Is that part of the subconscious reprogramming?

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You miss every shot you don't take.

Confidence is simply about knowing you can do something. When you start a new job you're probably at least a little bit nervous. What if you can't do the new job? What if you don't like your new colleagues? What if you can't work the new computer systems? etc. etc.

Fast forward 6 months and you're wondering why you were ever nervous in the first place. Why? Because you've been doing the same thing every day for the past 6 months. It's all second nature to you now.

That's what confidence is, knowing you can do something. The better you can do it, the more confident you are.

Like with most things though, people try to do it the wrong way round. They want the confidence before they try the new thing, because they don't want to look stupid and admit they can't do it. We don't like admitting that we can't do something. We really don't like looking stupid.

But this is the wrong way around. If there was a shortcut to becoming confident - or good - at something before we had practiced it, then everyone would be brilliant at everything and extremely confident from the moment we were born.

There isn't a shortcut with women. You can't become confident with women and only then start speaking to them or approaching them. Regardless of how much you read on here, you aren't going to be confident until you've done it numerous times and it feels almost natural.

So how can you become confident with women? Step one is to admit that you're no good with them now. Step two is to accept that you're going to have to show weakness and might risk looking stupid. Step three is to go out and practice despite step two. Step 4 - practice more.

After you've approached 5 girls, the 6th will feel much easier, even if you've been laughed at by three of them. After you've approached 50 girls, the 51st will seem very easy, even if you've not had huge success yet. After a year, you'll be able to go up to any girl you feel like and open them. You won't feel anxious, because it will be almost natural to you.