| Hey what's up it's Phantom again bringing you fresh but relatively bad jokes about myself
mixed with what I believe is a world class technique for erasing/changing your limiting beliefs.
In my work with guys I've noticed that all of them have one thing in common - they all have limiting ways of thinking of themselves and how the world works.
For example:
- They believe women like a certain type of guys, like the bad boy or the cool guy.
- They believe they don't deserve a beautiful woman because they don't have enough $$
- They believe that beautiful woman will always just reject them or blow them off if they
say "hi" to her.
And because they believe that, they wonder why this whole "picking-up-chicks" doesn't work for them.
Ewww.
So what exaclty is a limiting belief?
A limiting belief is an idea in your mind that you think is true, but is limiting you.
So an example of a limiting belief might be:
"Women don't like me"
"Hot women only date athletic guys"
"If I approach a woman that I like, she will ignore me or reject me or laugh at me"
Now the interesting fact about belief is that it's not really TRUE.
You see, a limiting belief is only a PARTIAL perspective of the truth. NOT the whole truth.
So if you have a limiting belief of "Hot women only date rich guys", then, if you see a
hot woman and you're not athletic - you won't even bother with talking to her, because
you believe she would never go out with a guy like you.
However, some other guy who doesn't believe that, will approach that girl, and even if he's
not athletic he will be able to talk to a girl, and get her number and possibly something more.
Why?
Because he has a different belief. Maybe one that empowers him like "Hot women love me!".
And because he has that belief, he won't hesitate from going up to a woman and starting a conversation
with her.
So your beliefs about what's possible will controll what you do.
So what to do about it?
Luckily, limiting beliefs are easily changed. You don't have to live your entire life with a limiting belief.
However, to change your limiting belief, you need 2 things:
Step # 1: First you need to recognize that this is a limiting belief, not a fact of life
I live in my head. I'm constantly thinking about stuff and a lot of times I get caught up in observing something, coming to a conclusion and then making a decision that "This is how the world works!"
And where's my dinner woman!
lol.
Well, over the course of the last few years, I've noticed that a lot of times - I was WRONG - dead wrong.
I was so sure that something worked one way, but then a I would experience a situation
that would prove something completely opposite.
Ups.
So I stopped walking around thinking I know the gospel's truths.
I realized that I and all of us function by our BELIEFS, and that beliefs are just a matter of perspective.
To give you an example, if I take your favourite book and put it infront of you so you can only see the
front cover of it, and I say to you: "This book has no front cover" - you would look at me and say:
"Yes it does dumbass, I'm looking at it right now"
But I would persist, that this book does not have a front cover because I can't SEE it.
Then you would say: "Well come to MY SIDE, and then you will see it"
AHA.
So if I change sides, I might get a different perspective, that would change what I believe in this moment.
Capiche? (I hope I spelled that right, at least it sounded cool)
So by recognizing a belief that you have as a limiting belief, not the gospel truth, you will complete the FIRST step.
Step # 2: You need to make a decision that you're going to change it
After you recognize that you have a limiting belief, it's time to make a decision: "Am I going to change it?"
There are 3 questions to ask yourself when it comes to making a decision:
Question # 1: Am I willing to change my limiting belief? Answer as you wish, yes or no.
Question # 2: Am I able to change my limiting belief? Answer this as you wish, yes or no.
Question # 3: When do I want to change it? - Always answer with a NOW!
Now you're ready to change a limiting belief.
*NOTE: The lazy man's problem
Here's one problem with changing limiting beliefs:
Most of us don't feel like doing the mind eating exercise of actually working on our limiting beliefs, so we rather seek another hot "product" or a method that's going to "solve everything" for us.
The limiting beliefs re-framing exercise is as old as dinosaurs. So nobody is enthusiastic about
doing it anymore.
But it's powerful. And it's one of those things that can skyrocket your confidence in couple
of minutes.
The hard part is training your butt to "sit", training your hand to take a pen and a paper and to write out what's bothering you.
So if you can muster up the discipline to at least not check your fb or twitter status
while doing this exercise for 15 minutes, you are in for a huge success.
So how does this work?
The way this works is you take a clean sheet of paper, sign out of fb and twitter, or even turn off
your computer and phone (I know, god no, but bear with me) and tell your butt to "sit" on a chair.
At the top of the paper write "My limiting beliefs"
Then answer this question:
The reasons I don't have success in this area of meeting women is because ____________
Finish the sentence with all of the excuses, reasons, that you tell yourself.
Keep going untill you're completely empty, when you have no more.
Look at your finished list, and realize that they are all your LIMITING beliefs, true for you, but probably not true in the real world.
So next what you do is you choose your one most pressing belief, the one that you think is a really BIG one for you, and put it in the 360' Limiting Beliefs Destroyer that I've designed for you.
The 360' Belief Destroyer™ works like a washing machine for your limiting beliefs. You put a limiting belief in, just like you would put your dirty underwear in a washing machine (ewww) and you press "start", and soon clean underwear comes out - or in this case, a fresh new belief.
To get the 360' Belief Destroyer™, click the link in my signature, check under "Free Stuff" section, and get your technique for free.
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