Hi folks,

Thoughts on a particular girl....?

We're only dating about 2 months but gone pretty good I though. We were in touch a lot, met 1 or 2 times a week, met her friends, etc...

Anyway, the last 2 weeks she's gone a bit off. She sometimes gets in touch and is all chatty but other times just leaves it for ages.
Having said that, when we DO speak she's telling me how much she likes me and wants to see me, etc, etc... so I'm taking that on face value.

I told her I was going home to my family for the holidays and it's kinda been since then. We had a chat but she seemed cool with it, I didn't think it was a big deal really. We met not so long ago and had plans made already.

At the same time she has this guy friend who CONSTANTLY posts on her facebook. It's clear he has a huge thing for her by the content and volume of the stuff. I'm afraid to ask her about it though, contact has been limited lately so I didn't want to bring up that.

She told me she's been sick last weekend and there's been a few other things going on with work and such. Not a big deal in itself. But that with the stuff I'm seeing on FB, I'm almost wondering if this guy is actually her BF or what.

I'm leaving at the weekend and we haven't seen each other in 2 weeks and contact has been less than it was.

I'm all over the place with it really. She seems nice and being busy and sick and the other stuff could be genuine but there's part of me thinking I'm being played like a dog here. I'm not really a suspicious type, it's just that the guy is making it VERY obvious what his intentions are and she doesn't exactly blank him.

Since I'm leaving at the weekend I kinda would like to know what to story is with her. Like, should I just walk away, was she actually busy but we should stay in touch... Its just at that point where I don't want to make a big deal out of anything and come off too strong but at the same time it's not the best timing since I don't know how to play things while I'm away, like ignore her, or stay in touch.

As said, I hate being suspicious of anyone but it's 50/50, this could be genuine and this other guy is just some clingy friend who's being friend-zoned or I could be being played like a dog here.

Anyway, any advice welcome.

Im in a fairly similar situation bro. For me we were dating since september then all of a sudden she went all cold and called things off coz she felt she needed some "time" - could we be friends etc.

My approach would be (and has been) to draw a clear line under it with her for now. If she's hard to get hold of call her or whatever and say sorry but you'll be really busy before going home so wont be able to see her before then. Tell her to have a great christmas etc and just leave it there. Ignore her until you're back on the scene.

If she's not sure what's gonna happen, whether or not she can have you when you're back etc you will be more interesting to her than some dude who's trying to keep her interest for a couple of weeks over the phone. Then when the opportune moment arrives hit her up in the new year with a friendly message, suggest to meet up and move from there. Maybe you'll be set back a bit in the process but that's it.

It sounds like she's kind of distancing herself... that could be because she's lost interest, something you cant change from another city, or it could be because she's also not sure where she stands. Again you can't do alot.

I'd say take yourself out of the game for now, then prepare to play again after the holidays.

Also I'd ignore the other guy, chances are he's just heavily friend zoned. If not it's her business and if you guys aren't properly a couple then there's nothing you can do while maintaining a strong frame.

Just my 2 cents