1. Does saying no real offend us or break our spirit?
2. Why do women play hard to get?
3. What is my goal in trying to pursue this women? Sex? Relationship? NSA? Friends?
4. What could I offer her? What can I bring to the table?
5. Will she think I'm boring? Do I think I'm boring?
6. Should I buy her a drink?

We over think every situation when it comes to dealing with women that in the end we fail overall. There is no such thing as the ideal man in today's world because we refuse to see it. At the end of the day "Yes" I can say that a huge percentage of men are dogs but that doesn't mean that there aren't any good guys left. A player can be a dog but at times a player is afraid for a women to see him for his true self that he creates this false image of himself which helps and hurts him within time. People fail to see that men aren't the only ones playing the game. Cheating goes both ways but when a man does it the media and general public make it bigger than it really is. You have to ask yourselves questions like "What kind of women do you want to end up with"? There are many types over thinkers, selfish, cocky,nerdy,freaky,shy etc. it's like being a kid in a candy store. Men ask themselves everyday how can I get this women to be with me what are the tools I require? The answer is you already possess the tools you just don't know how to use them. If you want to talk to the girl of your dreams or any girl in general just remember don't be a weirdo. Don't look at her and stay quiet just TALK!! Simple as that don't seem desperate either they can tell. Be interesting women love a little adventure and not many men can offer that even though they claim they can.
Ladies don't think I forgot about you now. Just because I am of male species does not mean I agree with the behavior of my gender. Women who have been lied to, cheated on or mentally and physically abused I am on your side. It sucks when you love someone and that person destroys your world or uses your feelings to their advantage. New York City has one of the highest singles ratio in the world for every male there are three women, crazy right? I know you say "why bother dealing with guys they are all the same they get what they want and then leave me".Sometimes you have to ask yourself did you make him work for your goods or did you just give it up? My advice keep those legs closed as long as you can because while we work for the goods we develop an emotional attachment and feelings start developing in the process. When the time comes to do the damn thing then he knows that he worked for it and has to protect it and make sure no one else has what he worked for. We both men and women have to stop living in the what if moments don't do stupid things either but stop over thinking stop judging stop allowing yourself to be unhappy. At the end of the day you can hurt yourself more by forcing yourself to be alone. Take a chance walk up to the guy you like have a conversation it doesn't necessarily have to end up with someone's number or anything but having the mentality that your trying to get out there.

its also social comformity thats stopping people from doing it because other people will think its wierd.

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In all honesty, I strongly believe that statements is heavier than questions. Look at the following sentence:

Statement: I don't think we're going to get along very well.
Question: Do you think we'll get along?

Statement: Let's go grab some drinks...
Question: Can I buy you a drink?

It also depends a lot on the type of question being asked... but one should try to stay clear from questions that asks a woman's validation.

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