friend just sent me the link to this site and thought it was really interesting. I've improved alot in terms of talking to new girls and I've got alot of confidence after changing my style but I still suck when I'm talking to the one I want. our conversations are always up and down for me because I kill it. but she always reinitiates the conversation. so i guess I'm in a slump. I've been looking at some of these questions to see what I can do with this girl but not sure where to start.

if she's re-initiating you're going in the right direction. Not sure exactly what you're asking

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Hank Moody: Life is too short to dance with fat girls.

idk i feel like i should be more in control. i have no problem talking to other girls and i can carry it the whole way but her i keep hitting the brick wall and we get those awkard silences before she brings up something else or like today she actually laughed about how i killed our conversation again lol. sorry if it sounds confusing lol. we can def text no problem so maybe i should text her more and advance my way through from there

well if you're hitting stalls in conversation then it would be important to address why. Do you get nervous? Are you worried about saying the wrong thing? Is she a poor conversationalist?

Just the fact that she keeps re-initiating and even jokes around about the fact that you killed it but moves on is definitely an indicator of interest. The probloem I see that's apparent is that you're letting her control the frame of the interaction. She's the one leading the conversation when it should be you.

I'd suggest talking to a few other girls and learning which stories get the most interest. Yes, stories. Girls love that shit, they've been told fairy tales their entire lives and if there's one thing that makes for good conversation it's a begining, build-up, climax and conclusion.

I do this with everything, even when my girlfriend asks me about how my day went. It's also easy to transition from a story because they'll feel compelled to tell their own story to reciprocate.

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Hank Moody: Life is too short to dance with fat girls.

nah shes actually really talkative person. I'm just a nervous idiot lol. but i see what your saying, i know two girls that i can run stories with if i need practice. and thanks for letting me know thats a possible IOI. im totally oblivious to signs like that. but this girl never text me first yet, so far we had two text convos but i text first both times. I was gonna text her again this weekend but maybe i should wait for her right?

You only need canned routines when meeting someone in night game that you probably won't meet again. Now that you already know her, treat her like any other guy; just talk completely naturally. Also, getting to know her friends is a good step. If she keeps reinitiating, she must have some interest. So, try to use it to your advantage and show her your best self.