Hi
I met this girl through friends at a party. I said to a friend; "can you please stop talking with me all the time, because I want to talk to that girl over there." Pointing at her, pretending she didnt hear.

So, at the end of the night I asked for a number, didn't get it. A week later she start chat with me on fb, asking if I was gonna go to a party.
She said "I have a lot to study, really. But I would love to go there. Will you come too?"
I said "If I feel like it, I'll show up"

So I go there. She starts huging me after we talked a while, saying stuff like "well you know, I don't want to be embarressing, since im 30 years old I hope I'm not acting too desperate!", that was wierd, I didnt know what to answer so I just said "desperate enough for a kiss?" So I got it.

Later that night she says she moved back to our little town, being away for several years. She is now here to get herself a man and settle down. So as I, but I didnt say. Just tried to figure her out.

So, we started out with a coffie. Got a limit of 1 hour, just to not being "too much". We strolled around town, including coffie for 2 hours, before I realized 2 hours was gone.

We text, but I try and be short and not entering any sms-conversations. We decide for a meet at the cinema, which eventually end up in me inviting her home for some wine. Lead me to bed with her but no sex.

So, after a couple days she drops a bomb at me. Sms conversating me about if I thought about the little "adventure" we had. She asked; "to be continued?" I rang her and said "adventure? Now we did the thicket, next we make the jungle" made her laugh so I said "sure we can meet again".

We decide a new meet and she call me saying she got sick. Text me later and tell me she had have a thought about all and that she wasn't keen on adventures (note that SHE was the only who even MENTIONED adventure at all, in ANY sms or conversation.) She clearly states in her sms that she want a guy to settle down with and that me and her has separate plans for the future. I want to study and she took that as me wanna get away from this small town. She judged me based on my dreams basicly...

Told me how she see on a relationship as not separate interests, in "boys night" and girls night" Whoha! she went straight into my life there! No more baseball evenings with the boys?? Okay so now I want to bring my gf there? Noway.

Thing is she judged me and gave me no chance to defend myself. So I tried and call. Pointless. Sent her a msg "I think I fell in love but too bad we cant chat about this. bye" (and I said that based on what she said about a long term, im so stupid!)

So she send a msg back saying "I dont think i am the girl you fell in love with, you only knew me a month"

3 days pass and she call me, saying that she probably was too harsh on me. She thought about it and want to meet up for a chat. She sms me in the evening when we're both out and wanna meet. I sms back and she ignore. She played me I think. So, the day after I call her and I say "If you want a long term act that way. Don't waste my valuble time with this crap, Im not a toy that you can toss around as you like. I'm independent and I dont have time for this. Im not gonna hunt you. So get your shit together and figure it out. If you wanna meet for coffie - fine, just call!"

That I said in a nice way. The conversation was smooth and gentle on my part. She said "we should meet this weekend to disuss this" I said "what is it to discuss, we are not a pair. And we've disussed it now. Maybe we meet on new years eve (we are invited to the same party). That made her go "what?, that is a looong time" And I replied "yes, so I see you then, if not before" She ended the conversation with "we should really meet again" and I replied "yes, definatly". This was 6 days ago.

After this I didn't text her or call her OR being on fb. No responce from her either.

Should I wait her out until new years eve or call her? I have no clue what to do next. Friends say "Do as you said, wait her out. But I feel maybe she think I'm suppose to approach since she did after her "fail". I don't know. I like her, and like to see where it leads me.

I'm gonna go read the rest on this forum now. This is some interesting stuff hehe!