LTR for about 2 years and the sex is not as frequent. Any advice?

A)the male has become boring in bed. Too much ejaculation has caused her to gain energy, and the male is drained. Its a horrific cycle that I see happening. divorce rate is so high. To counter this the male should never ask for sex from the female. even if its hard. Never masturbate if she doesnt give it to you. Go workout or something.

b) you and her are too comfortable together. She might think you lost your game because sex is always there for you. shes testing you to see if you still got "game". stay focused on yourself. wait for her to get horny and come to you. When she comes to you, slam her really good.

c) the female is slamming another male.

Not as frequent as before? That is normal.
Not as frequent as you would like? Talk about it, find out what gets her in the mood and do that.

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This guy is right - communicate about your desires. That´s what a relationship is for, being open and honest about personal and mutual expectations.

The other post is crap. If you still want to play around guessing games and whatever in a relationship to mess with people´s minds, you are wasting your time and not confident to forge the relationship into that which provides you with all you demand from life.

this just proved to me that you are a square. Communicating to a woman that you are concerned that the sex is less is NOT THE WAY TO GO. never ever let the girl know that you want her for sex. even your own GF. This is a square move. the guy needs to focus on himself, even if the sex increases after the "commuication" it is probably because she feels pity for him and just to stop him from being sad.
This is not the right way, maybe it is for you which makes sense. your game is too low to understand my post. my post is light years ahead of anything you will learn in this lifetime.

Do you think women do not enjoy sex?

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where did I say that?

Just because your in a LTR does not mean you should ease down on your game.
This is very advance level and it could save many marriages.
Many guys think "Im in a relationship now, and getting sex, I can relax now"

meanwhile the woman does not think that. she will still compare her man to many other men she sees daily. And women get hit on WAY more than guys.

Im saying when it comes to the point that you need to 'communicate' to the her to increase the sex,most of the time its already too late and the relationship is damaged. there are some exceptions, but generally I mean.

I think you have a point here, I have been married & in LTR for about 15 years & I have become pretty lazy.
There are other dynamics though, she does not excite me enough anymore to go and work at it, its all too hard. Why work my guts out at the gym when all I will ever get is a Jatz cracker when I get home.

When you say comparing to other men, I think it changes a bit too. Yes they compare you to other men as in "My sisters husband always helps my mum out & he always goes to family engagements" & I do not.

After 15 years believe me, there is zero mystery anymore, I am not sure if changed my ways with her it would make any difference at all, she knows me too well.

And yes I firmly believe she has sex with me because she feels its her duty & "well I got that out of the way for another month" type thinking.

I think that these seduction techniques would not work to repair a bad relationship because they seemed to be aimed at the superficial part right at the start where there is a lot of mystery & sexual tension.

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[quote="Matrixxx"][quote="Jthesly"]Never masturbate if she doesnt give it to you. Go workout or something.
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Ha, my balls would be the size of watermelons if I did that.

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Her duty? It should be her pleasure. You appear to believe that sex is a transaction, i.e. you give her something and she gives you sex in return. Now that you have, apparently, become out of shape, unhelpful, and a bellyacher, you are surprised and indignant that your wife is skimping on her end of the deal. Luckily, your perspective and attitude are completely wrong: sex is not a transaction where service A is traded for service B, but a joint activity that is pleasurable and desirable for all involved. Women do enjoy sex, it's just that you are either unattractive or bad in bed. Is that what you want to be? If yes, then by all means, stay in your comfort zone and keep complaining to others about how your wife does not trade you enough sex. If no, then man the fuck up and do something about it.

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No I did not say I think its her duty, I said I think she thinks its her duty, a world of difference......
Thanks for the lecture. After 15 years, sex is very different than the first 2 months of a relationship & every person I know that has had a relationship of that length of time has a knowing look on their face whenever this sort of discussion comes up & that is both men and women.

Yep & no doubt I am out of shape & probably not the best in bed but that is not definitely the reason although I suspect you just wanted to insult, no problemo

Good looking couples who are great in bed break up all the time, its boredom & familiarity, the same reason Hugh Grant had a quicky with some meatloaf while he had caviar sitting at home.

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matrixxx I just read you called me a square and said your game was lightyears ahead of me.

Game means playing mindgames to win some sex out of it and secure short time objectives. it centers around allure and playing around.
Relationships are the real deal where the allure is supposed to come from you revealing your true self. It means to open up your heart and the desires that dwell there.

the truth and erudition of what I just wrote is so glaring that anyone claiming to be 'beyond' this is necessarily an impostor. Human nature dictates that we either forge our relationships into ties that foster our desires, or we go grow stale and depressed like the Hugh Grant example, constantly looking for distraction.

So let me tell you some facts from my Epic life to accentuate the difference between my real world knowledge and some cheap bluff.

Friend of mine is a top official with a beautiful girlfriend. However she does not possess enough of a sex drive for him to feel truly satisfied in his relationship. He is an international diplomat, Oxford degrees, all that. He trusted me so much becauose right off the bat he knew that I have no limits. so we went out with his girlfriend and I pretended to be his new intern.h

phone was acting up so I just write on. anyway I pretended to be the new intern and went out with him and his girl while his TRUE intern is some Eastern European chick he is banging. and he bangs many girls like that. and these girls are always more narcisistic, gold diggerish and less beautiful than his official gf. he risks losing her this way.

Instead of taking the bull by the horns and injecting more sexual passion into his girlfriends psyche, he beats around the bush and distracts himself from his frustrations by sleeping with girls of a lesser quality. obviously this leaves him unfulfilled by comparison, so it becomes an endless hunt for more stimulations. If they have real feelings for each other they should talk about what they require in the relationship in order to flourish in life. And not just sexing with him to make him happy - no in my scenario I would stimulate the girl into becoming a person who loves sex and thrives on sex. challenge her to redefine herself as a person whose sexual dimensions constitute a large part of her life satisfaction. A transformation driven by her love for him, because he wants HER to enjoy life to the fullest. and tell her every day how much the thought of this blossoming desire in her makes him feel happy.

What I did with my girlfriend was to ask her how far she would go for me. she said all the way. I worked with this. she told me i am her best lover ever and appreciates very much my stamina and recovery rate and inevitable orgasm. she says it never felt so good with other guys. I get her to skip hours from her work to go with me to my room. then I asked her to tell me all her fantasies and desires and naughty thoughts. I did this frequently both face to face and in texts to arouse her.

eventually she started digging into my desires as well, then I told her of my obsession with slim and petite girls and how much extacy I experience in making love to their lithe, smooth feminine shapes. the self transcendence I experience especially when I invade their squirming, scrawny forms from behind, and feel their muscles convulse beneath the power of my thrusts. Then she became so turned on that she wishes to reshape herself into my perfect fantasy and I take ample time to foster this desire every day.

If you are a lightyear ahead of me, it is only because you are a lap behind.

It was not my intention to insult you, but to provoke you into action. You wrongly equate good-looking with attractive, you do not appear to notice that being great in bed is the very antithesis of being boring, and you invoke the 'knowing looks' of others to justify not tackling your problems. Like I said, go ahead and do so if this is what you want, but you should realize that the problem you are experiencing can be overcome. It just requires you to make the conscious decision to do so, and then act upon this decision.

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Fair points.
At this stage it seems out of my hands though. She seems to of turned a corner & her life is no longer going to involve me.

I have been working very hard in all areas but it does not seem to matter, its like a switch has gone off in her head & thats it. I just have to come to terms with it.

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