Hey guys. me and my wing have a routine we have in the club to initially build state and keep some continuity throughout the night. goes like this.....

- Dance floor for a couple of songs
- two approaches (each) on the bottom floor
- high five each other after approach
- next floor two more approches each
- high five on completion
- go to the bar get a drink (soda water is my preference but anything NON alcoholic)
- next floor two DIRECT approaches

This is the structure and continuity for the night so you stay focused in the moment and enjoy the vibe.

Aim for a MINIMUM of 10 approaches each.

This was the first time i ran this night game routine/structure and it was one of the best nights in ages. It worked so fucking well. I will be doing this again.

To note- You cannot move floors until you have fulfilled your goal of two approaches.

Go out with a wing who will physically fucking push you into set ( I will admit I needed this a couple of times and appreciated it!)

Try it guys its pretty awesome!

This comes in handy.

Now I have a question that`s a bit related to the part were your wing fucking pushes you to engage the set:

How can you improve at approaching and forgetting your anxiety while also having fun at the same time?

You see, once I went out with a wing that made me approach every fucking set on the place, and it was a really nice night, but when I remember him telling me to go talk to girls I kinda felt that it was a job.

I already have a boring job, wouldn`t want to make pua another job for me couse that would be ruining all the fun.

So how do I take this siriously without making it a job?

I push my self to do it. and tell my friend to push me. Me and my wing make a game out of it, every approach gives a point. KK gives 2 for example. numberclose also 2. by the end who ever loses, has to pay the other. whatever. just make sure you bet on something and you DONT want to loose -.-

now for your job thing. its a lame excuse. honestly, right?! Dont worry, practice more and more and you will see, the more approaches, the more positives and the more you will like it, it will become a drug and you get addicted and cant stop approching hotties. its like with beer. everyone hats the first beer. soon they love it. do it!

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Approach anxiety and blowouts aside, what about once you actually get in set?

What if the girl is really feeling you? Do you stay in and keep gaming her all night?

What if she is giving mixed signals? Do you give it a few minutes, high five her, then move on?

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BOND 007- Well you have to be pushed sometimes its just the point I'm making. The process of going out appraching SHOULD be fun. But for the times when it isn't fun you need that extra push. You may not thank your buddy for it at the time but believe me, you will find on other nights you will have mental reference points built up and you will be conditioned to approach NO MATTER WHAT!

PUA NINJA- Its just a structure to get yourself in state for the night and build some momentum. Yeah of course If im in a set that's going well i will try and build a connection and escalate. It just keeps you active around the club, out your own head and keeps some continuity throughout the night.

Not a big club person. AA is not a problem with me but when i physically can't hear them and have to half way scream to be heard it gets annoying and kills my game.

Meh, would never use this. But I guess it's good if it motivates you to push your comfort zone. However, have you ever thought about trying to go further than only opening two sets and then going back to your wing?

You know, you don't need to open 10 different sets if you only do 1 good opening.
My tips: Try to push the interaction as far as possible until it blows. You will learn much faster this way. Instead of just talking for 30 seconds and going back to your wing, cause I am assuming this is what you do.

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist