Hey guys,
I´ve been taking dancing lesson with this girl for about 2 month now and I´m really into her. Problem: she has a boyfriend (probably LTR, LDR for shure). at least she mentioned him twice.
We really enjoy dancing together and she seems to have the time of her life while being with me. negging, push-pulling all the time, she´s really good at it..

We met a few times apart from the lessons but things were a little stiff. I think she might assume that I´m into her.

So my question now is: what should I do? I really dont wanna loose her as my dancing partner.
I thought of just telling her.. or should I wait a little longer and try to kiss her (that probably will destroy our friendship?)

any thoughts and comments are appreciated. thanks in advance, keef

Everybody want to keep and safe and have it both ways. When you have it both ways you don't have to risk anything. However, success comes from choosing the side you want to be on and making yourself vulnerable and risking. In order to get a girl you must be mentally prepared to lose her and you aren't prepared. Ask yourself, would I rather take one side and be my real self and some people might not like me or would I rather pander to everyone and conceal my real intentions. This is a hard decision but one you have to make. If this girl is having a good time with you most probably she likes you all you have to do is make the move.

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"Experience is the teacher of all things"

thanks for your answer! you´re totally right! I think right now I´d rather be just friends with her than loose her. but I´ve been this way all my life and later got to know that I really had a shot with some of the girls I wanted..
So I told myself never to hide away again.

Actually I´m not that experienced with woman, I read almost everything that is out there on PU. and went out for sarging for some month thrice a week, didn´t have too much sucess. thats when I decided nightgame isn´t for me..

So when you´re saying make the move, do you mean kiss close her? tell her? what´s the move?

I figured that a good moment, to do whatever, might be while dancing, because we´re having high energy, loads of kino and deep eye contact.. but then again, everyone would witness a possible rejection and after this it would be very likely that she shuts me down completely.. alright decision making again..

You have to understand that there's never the right moment. Let me explain. The "right moment" mentality comes from a thinking point of view that states "you got to restrain yourself" "what you want is not as important as what the society will think of you". Basically it's a mindset that set rules for you. You got to say fuck the right moment and just do what you want when you want. That doesn't mean you should go up on the stage when Jenifer Lopez is singing and say you think shes cute and want to get her number but rather anything reasonable. You should first start from light things such as holding hands, hugging etc.. then move on to kissing. Don't kiss her while dancing in front of everyone because she will be pressured.

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"Experience is the teacher of all things"

Did you intentionally make a reference to Dirty Dancing here, or was that just a strange coincidence?

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

that actually was a coincidence
she seems a little bored and stiff the first 10 minutes, she´s really busy studying, work, etc.. and then I light up her day. it almost seems like I pull her completely out of her world and we create our own where nothing else matters, for an hour..

Why are you being so poetic bro? It's just us dudes here.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

that might be just me or my love for the english language. I´m german..
thanks very much for all the input.. Now I just have to really decide, but I think it´s better to just go for it intentionally than wait and do something stupid..