(Avoid pity story by scrolling straight to the bottom) So my girlfriend broke up with me around 8 months ago,she meant the world to me ( we dated 3 years) and her leaving was out of nowhere luckily it wasn't because she found another guy she just didn't want to be tied down anymore & I was an ass in the last 4 months of the relationship. I've gotten over the losing her, but I am deeply in love with her still, part of me wants her back, but even when I'm around her idk what to say anymore and that's my real problem. Even when I'm with my friends these days I can't hold conversation, but I used to be the guy who loved to socialize. Now I hide from it and I'm scared to venture anywhere my Ex-girl might be (we go to the same small local college) .Perhaps its my confidence that's been shot down? Idk I'm not depressed, cause I always find something to smile about and I have 2 girls that're simply friends with benefits so we really don't have much conversation just fun. I just want to be able to talk and hold hour long conversations again with men and women and be able to get back out there, be that guy that everyone loves to be around and get back out there. Help me

Read books. Deep, high quality books that make you think of great thoughts, great deeds, and make your soul burn inside from passion and erudition. Here are some suggestions: "The Republic" by Plato, "Frankenstein" by Mary Shelley (make sure to get the original version as it is very eloquently written). "Atlas Shrugged" by Ayn Rand is also a good one since it contains many well-written conversations. Or "The Pilgrimage" by Paulo Coelho, although not erudite still a rather inspiring story. After you read these things, speak about the thoughts that you get with your friends, teachers, whoever. Develop yourself to be an erudite person. I invested 22 years of my life in this, and I am the greatest conversationist alive today.

Obviously, 99.9% of the people alive in our MTV-based society today would not possess the strength of will to take two hours every day to sit down and read. But knowledge is power. Reading the books that constitute civilizations will give you the ability to give shape to thoughts that would otherwise have remained formless.

greatly appreciated friend

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Hello

Its not the end of the world. Its only another chapter of your life. A new chapter. With new adventures. You are not the same person you were 3 years ago. You must move on. But it wont be easy. You need to have that same confidence that you had when you got her. many times too much sex with the same girl (GF) makes the man lose his balls and confidence. The woman gains power with sex, the man looses. Dont ever forget that.

Do you work out? play your favorite sport and breath in deeply. Maybe its time for a new hair style.
Dont ejaculate for a few weeks. Maybe your gas tank is on low. Once you start loving yourself more (corny) people will love to be around you. Dont be so hard on yourself.