| SO background story.
HB 8 French girl who goes to my school. I met her on the first day through a friend. I didn't get far the first time in terms of number closing the first time I met her but I left an impression that I was fearless in talking to new people. Anyway, she did not have a phone at the time so I could not get her digits, so I said fuck it, the campus is small i will see her eventually. So, I saw her 3 more times over the next few weeks, some fluff talk, and finally after 4 weeks have gone by i number closed her when i saw she had a phone. Mind you, I wasn't actively gaming her, it was more of a passive gaming by displaying social proof, showing her that other women enjoyed my company(I would run into her outside campus and I would wave to her while i talked to other girls) and showing her that she wasn't going to phase me with her sense of style and cuteness.
Text to lay.
Somewhat consistent, somewhat spotty. The language barrier was pretty rough and we had a hard time understanding each other. I sent her texts teasing her French misunderstanding of the American culture and how she wasn't in the "know"; I sent her texts role playing wife and husband, and overall I sent texts setting for the meet up eventually while generating comfort(I say eventually because there was something odd about this girl that i had to game her more).
After 5 dates I get the lay.
The first two dates were rough in terms of escalation. I got resistance from even getting a kiss the first date. I eventually got one at the end by using the deadpan face until she gave in. The deadpan pace is a neutral facial expression that taps into tension between two people. You are silent during it. I asked for a kiss and went silent and did the triangular gaze. It was a quick 2 second kiss and we parted was. I thought she was playing hard to get.
The second date I taught her some American slang and used a compliance test for kisses for each new word I taught her. Eventually I anted up the kissing and we made out briefly. I escalated on her physically by grabbing her ass and spanking her with my belt a little. I could tell she liked it but once again resistance to what was happening. I did not get the lay
3rd date: Boom. Finally got the makeout makeout in this one. Unfortunately, I met up with her late in the night. We went out for drinks, we came back to my apartment. I escalated more and established the foundation between being comfortable kissing and groping her body. She stated she had to leave because she had to do some work in the morning(I knew it was shit, but I am not that smooth in this part of the game yet), so i let her go.
4th date: THE LAST STRAW in my mind. I went all out. I made her jump through hoops, I teased her, push pulled her and brought out the big guns. I got her thinking about sex and i stated my intent that i want her bad and she makes me think really bad things. I got the makeout, I felt under her shirt, tried getting at her pants but she would not comply and stated for me to stop and it won't be tonight. I kept on escalating either way but I knew I wasn't getting the lay. I knew however that she was getting really turned on as she was biting her lip a lot and we were having brief sexual tension silences by looking into each others eyes intensely. I placed her hand on my cock to show her that I meant business the next time. We built up more rapport and then she tested my amount of neediness and my views on sex. She said she was sorry that she could not sleep with me tonight and watched for my reaction more than once. I passed these assessments. She left but she knew that the next time, we were having sex.
5th date. I knew I stated my intent before the ...and she actually texted me during the week to confirm our next meeting. I brought her to my apartment and once again brought out all the stops. I was way more comfortable in this date because after ALL those dates I thought I knew what she was about(i thought she was playing hard to get!) and i would have to prolong the foreplay. In addition, i built up considerable comfort during those dates. So we had some drinks, we teased each other, made out, took a break, made out again, then I finally brought her into my bedroom and took care of business. It went smoothly and I knew I was in once she asked if I had protection.
THE BIG REALIZATION!
The biggest lesson in all of this was that don't ASSUME shit. I thought she was playing hard to get but in reality she was a virgin. A 21 year old virgin. I thought (narrow mind i know) guys went into their twenties virgins and not girls. BIG mistake. Mind you I have no experience with virgins as I have slept with girls that were not virgins in the past. She was a decent kisser, not the best. This might have been a first indication in the beginning of me dating her but I never paid attention at first. I went down on her. I got the condom on and told her I'd like to see her ride me and pleasure herself (some sex god material). She did not know what she was doing lol. I DID NOT TAKE THE HINT WELL LOL. Eventually, she said for me to go missionary. I was leading the sex but there was awkward moments where she didn't understand what going on. I was feeling hesitant at this point but plowed in. At first I fingered her and she was TIGHT. I was like "this girl does fucking good kegels!". PAID NO MIND AGAIN TO SIGNS
Now on to penetration, I tried to go in quickly and dirty talk. She paced me and I was like in my head "erhm im not THAT big lol" but I acknowledge her pacing and told her I was going to go slow. It was the slowest process in my life. I eventually got in pretty deep after 5-10 minutes of easing into it. So we have sex, i took command and led her because I could tell she was having trouble riding me and overall letting herself enjoy the sensations of sex. This was the first time version for a female. I made her orgasm and she freaking shoots her damn pelvis up and my dick fucking comes out and slams into it. I held in the yelp! I was in pain for a few minutes but I knew that I had done my job and told her I would be coming in the next position.
After sex, I talk to her and do the usual comfort shit and the showing signs of affection to minimize buyers remorse. I turned on the lights and I noticed that I have blood in my hands. Two alarms go off and I either say one, I am one rough mother fucker or she was a virgin. I did not say anything but i didn't wash my hands either because I wanted to keep the vibe alive. She eventually confesses that this was her first time and I sympathetically tell her I had a feeling she was a virgin and I hugged her just in case to giver her a sense of comfort and love.
Overall this was a very humbling experience and I will always remember this lay. Because she was my first virgin and I realized that women too can go into their twenties virgins and inexperienced in dating. I thought only guys went through such phases because men have to initiate more and women get to experience dating as a byproduct of being approached. Well, that's all for now.
Mr. A.
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