So I left her alone for awhile, cuz she has a bf, despite her admitted feelings for me.

She started with texts again...."this song reminds me of you...." "lets hang out", "watcha doin ?", "pick up a shift so we can work together", ect.

We've begun having "date night", when we go out, shoot pool, get a drink, ect.

We only used to text, never talk on the phone...that is beginning to change.

I have not re-escalalted since she shot me down after kissing her the first time.

I've said things like "hey you know, if we start dating, don't expect to meet my family right for awhile, I hate that awkard shit", and she responded "good, me too"

and

"hey if we're dating by summer, you gotta go to Bonnaroo with me, its a blast"....to which she said yeah, sounds good.

trouble is, her bf is moving in, gradually. They are supposed to move his shiit in this week.

she never brings up her relationship with me, but her roomate tells me they fight often, and gives me the dirt on it.

Also, she has begun inviting me over more.....even when her bf is around. I know this is driving him nuts, but he seems to be cornered/afraid to take a stand against her having me so close in her life (which I think is funny).

I don't feel right about getting sexual or trying to kiss her again, since being resisted, unless an opportunity presents itself on a drunken night.

Its not like my world is revolving around this girl.....I do like her, not sure if i wanna be with her or if its the challenge im into.

I have been involved with other girls, but this one is always on my mind.

I'm not even that physically attracted to her, yet the whole package of who she is, is extremely enticing....

In the meantime, uts just like Im hanging with a good friend, theres a lot of sexual tension between us, and admitted feelings.

thoughts ?

2 things that did throw me for a loop....

She once asked that i stop putting pressure on her. This was when I was escalating and trying to get somewhere. I did as she asked. Should I have rather turned the pressure up?

Another time while drunk, i made some comments on her relationship, which I didn't mean to, and she said it felt like i was asking her to choose between him or myself, which I had no intention of doing.

I just feel like i have to win this. I MUST bang this girl!

Forget her, oneitus comes down to confidence issues and self belief, there are many fish in the sea, seriously there are many fish in the sea. This girl is fucking with you, don't take what she says literally and just go by feeling.

No... Punish her for negative comments. In reality, she may have wanted things to escalate. But by doing so, you're showing that you can resist temptation because you have self control. Next time you escalate in the same manner, there's a good chance she won't tell you to stop again because she'll know what will happen if she does.

Also, if you want to just fuck her, go for it.

But if you want to date her, keep this in mind: she's getting close to a guy (you) even though she has a boyfriend. Suppose you were to date her, what makes you think she wouldn't get close to another guy while you two are dating? Fact is, the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour. Keep that in mind.

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