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she was grinding against me. Things got heated.
most girls don't think of dancing or flirting as cheating, some don't even consider kissing as cheating
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After the party, I had "forgotten my mug" earlier in her room, so I had access to her room.
Once we were in I started to kiss her, and she said -
"I've got a boyfriend."
this is the point she considers cheating
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And that she just wanted to settle in and meet new people. Because she doesn't know anyone yet.
this is her justification for flirting with you and leading you on
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Up to that point she never mentioned anything about a BF. On her Facebook account there's no relationship status, nor any pictures of her with any boys, period.
solution to this, next time you meet a new girl, ask her ''are you single?'', or in a group, ''so how do you all know each other?'', or think of some way out of the millions of other ways you can find out if she is single, has nothing to do with ''game'' just about screening girls so you don't waste your time on girls like this, being more clear in your intent also helps screen these girls out, as you saw as soon as you escalated to a point where she felt this is leading to a ''sexual'' place, she showed her cards because she can't justify doing this when she is unavailable
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Thus I do believe BF=bullshit.
this is interesting that you believe this, it is more likely she is attracted to you, liked the attention she was getting from you, but has a boyfriend and does not want to cheat on him, when a girl says ''I have a boyfriend'' the first time you even let her know in any way she is qualified (show interest), or within the first 5 minutes of meeting her, chances are the boyfriend is much more likely to be fake, if she waits a long time, flirts with you, and waits until you cross a certain point of escalation to tell you, way bigger chance the boyfriend is real
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Her alleged BF is 300 miles away, doing military service. I told her I'm finished with that, and I'd be here for her - not AFC like, but "I'm the man who'll take care of you".
really all you can do, tell the truth about what you want, and don't wait up for her
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She's quite self conscious, serious girl, quite anxious to get a good reputation. I think it was lack of comfort that ruined it.
more likely just has a boyfriend, probably wasn't a lack of anything, she met up with you, were your intentions clear to her when you met up? or did you have it framed as just a friendly friend get together for a fun time, instead of a, I like you and want to see you, type of thing? this can also have an impact, as if she knows you like her and is unavailable, she will be more likely to flake you when she can't proceed to escalate with you
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So I gave her two days of freeze-out, and last night we went out with her friends, whom I got along with.
Should I proceed with C1-C3, gain more trust of her friends and wait for her? Or is it a lost cause?
not a lost cause, but you should stop gaming her and move on, be normal around her, at this point she probably knows she is qualified, just let her invest if she is interested and get some good logistics, and try to go for the kiss again, but don't ''CHASE'' her to this, don't pursue her anymore, she let you know she's in a relationship, you should just respect that, and if she is giving you signs that she is interested again, call her bluff and offer up some logistics where you can get her alone, if she puts up that she is not single as an excuse, let her know it's not an issue for you and you can be discreet, and if she doesn't value her relationship then that's that, but girls with boyfriends contrary to popular belief on these forums, are usually a waste of time, and if you overly persist in pursueing her after this when she has demonstrated that she respects her boyfriend, it can come off as needy, you can try to re-frame it so that it isn't an issue for you and it's only and issue for her, but if she persists with her rationalization that it is wrong, then persisting past that point is needy
so basically, all you have to do, is forget about her, maybe once every two weeks, or one time a week, touch base and keep in touch, then when she is single, do it up again, just don't be needy to turn her off, don't focus on her too much so that she doesn't become overly comfortable and familiar with you and socalizing as friends, and meet new girls in the mean time to keep your mind off her