Just got done with a messy breakup, my ex and I lived together, were best friend, I was crushed, and just found out she fooled around with a guy last night which just adds to the pain!

Any way I am back in the game for the first time in 3 1/2 years! I need to knock the rust off, touch up on my game, any tips?

Just wait till she actually starts dating a guy and doesn't give two shits about you anymore... Then it'll be a fucking killer if you're still single.

Your goal is to fuck around a bit, but more importantly get back in a relationship before she does. Best word of advice I can give you.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

she already is seeing this guy and it is killing me! its a lonely feeling! it sucks!

Who cares what you ex is doing? She is no longer part of your life. Find some new girl and make her ex sit on the sidelines feeling bad while you fuck her.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

Sorry to hear that man. Breakups must be tough (haven't had one, never been in an LTR), but I can empathize with you. Your goal should not be to outdo her. You are you. Get back into it. Find out what you truly want (wanting your ex back may not be the best option here, so apart from that what do you want, not just in your love and sex life, but life in general) and go for it. I know this will probably go in one ear and out the other right now, but there are many other girls out there who would kill to be with you.

I was in your boat.

I was in a 4 year LTR, now im not..

Go out sarging, Meet tons of women.. You will forget about her

No I don't want her back, she completely took advantage of me, when I met her she had a highschool education, now she is in university, she didn't have a relationship with her father, now she has a great relationship with him, my parents gave her thousands to fix her car, buy clothes, go to school, they treated her like a daughter because they thought we were getting married (I was saving for a ring).

We broke up about 2 months ago because she was texting with other guys, she begged me take her back telling me she will always be by my side, and that she needed me in her life, we got back together, and things fell apart because 1# I just couldn't seem to trust her and she did nothing to earn my trust, and 2# because I think she felt she would always have me in her back pocket.

I got really jealous and looked at her phone the other day (which is not like me at all!) and she told me she wasn't sure she wanted to be with me, she "loved me but didn't feel the same way she use to".

She came from a really messed up family, they don't have the same values that my family prides it self on, her parents are divorced, mom slept around on her dad, she didn't have a relationship with her father for about years, my parents have been married for 35 years, have stead solid jobs, are very good people! I should have seen this coming!

The hardest part for me is how emotionally and physically compatible we were, we were best friends, had everything in common! and she was an easy hb 9/10. I have dated many women but she was by far the most compatible woman i have ever been with.

Her being with another guy has devastated me! I took her back and I wish I would have told her to hit the road 2 months ago! Now I am the one who feels like shit while she is laughing....

Very selfish of her!

Time. Time. Time. It sounds very messed up, and I think you know what you have to do. Don't try to forget her because you won't. It's in your memory. But over time the emotions will become filtered and rinsed. Go out, get your life together, talk to someone about shit. It helps a great deal.

Don't worry. It's not over between you and her. Eventually she'll come to realize how good you were to her and she'll regret it. I can almost promise you that. I say it from personal experience.

But don't wait for her to come back. Stop being a lonely piece of shit. Go out there and sarge like a boss.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

eh, forget the negativity since it doesn't do you any good. Just cherish the good times you had and take it as an experience learned. Life is too short for you to worry. Relationships end. Either you break up or one of you dies.

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No I would never take her back now! when I look back I realize that I brought her up, made her a better person, and she dragged me down.

We did have a lot of good memories, we were great friends! if she didn't have so many issues I would have married her but you can't change someone. She lost the best thing in her life! I was the one person who stuck by her side no matter what, supported and guided her to be a better person, and opened her up to a life she only dreamed of previously.

I on the other hand gave, and gave, and never received. Yeah she did nice thing for me from time to time but my life, and career deteriorate while with her. Its not all her fault, I should have left her a long time ago! she's a really cool person but very selfish and has a lot of issues she needs to work though.

Before I met her I was on the top of my game! was surrounded by women, and had an awesome social life! I have to get back to that place!

You came to the right place.
The people on this forum really care about your feelings.

I feel so much better already! been doing some self reflection, realizing that this girl was not as perfect as I made her out to be...that and realized to a women im an hb 10 haha im a great catch! her loss....feels great!

As far as I'm concerned, the reason you fit so good together at the end, was because you made it so.

Seems like you're getting back on track though, and that's great! Take that feeling of awesomeness that you've got now, and use it to set some goals! Find out what you want to do, how you want to do it, and then go do it!

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Alea iacta est - The die has been cast