OK so I added this girl on facebook who I went to college with. Hardly know her but recognised each other in the street the other day so though why not. Anyway started chatting to her online, got a bit flirty, teasing each other and shit for over an hour. Then I ask her for a drink and we swap numbers over facebook.

She doesn't say she is in a relationship on her facebook, but I see on her male friends facebook page that he is in a relationship with her. What the hell? Why is she going for a drink with a guy (me) she hardly knows and being flirty when she has a bf. And why is she hiding her relationship status on fb?

Are you one of those guys that thinks "oh man, she has a boyfriend, I have no chance?".

Change that fucking mindset, dude. I believe the majority of girls in relationships are unhappy and looking for a way out. Don't read it into, don't bring it up, just game her like any other girl. She didn't bring it up in conversation, she doesn't have her status set, how do you even know it's serious? Are you worried about this "boyfriend" getting pissed at you stealing or fucking her? It's all in your head.

Well kind of thinking she wont be interested yeah. But even if she is I don't want to be the Dick that causes her to feel bad about creating on her bf. Whether he is a foot taller than me or only comes up to my knee, its more that id fee like a cock being the guy that fucked her because it must feel horrible having someone cheat on you so I will actually try and resist the temptation.

But I'm just wondering what is going through her head. Maybe she just likes the attention, or maybe she is actually thinking of cheating. Most likely she has probably convinced herself that its just a friendly drink.

1. She is interested in you.
2. You never saw that she's in a relationship, you do not care, and you will never talk to anyone about it.
3. Even if you manage to stick your penis in her vagina, it is not you to feel bad... Because you didn't know (refer to #2). Even if you knew, it's not your duty to stop it from happening. It's her.

so man the fuck up and go get that pussy you mother fucking beast.

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I used to think this way but not any more. I think if you know you shouldnt go there, or least try not to lol. Becuase that makes you a dick because you're helping to potentilly mess up somones relationship. Or at least possbly make her feel like shit for giving into temptation and cheating. Not saying that I will be abe to stop myself though, especially when under the influence of booze.

I gues Im just trying to get my head around why she is basically acting single. I guess she is either not happy in her relationship, is happy but likes the attention from other guys/is very horny.

I have two facebook friends and both have their main profile pic with them standing with the same girl. They both said they were in a relationship with her.

I've dated girls I wanted to be my gf and they flat out told me they'd continue dating me and fucking me but wouldn't be my gf. That's because they probably were dating other guys on the side, looking for better prospects. Sometimes the guys will try to deny or ignore the fact that the girl isn't fully into them, and they'll treat her like their gf eventhough she isn't. Or she'll be their on again off again gf and everytime she gets mad at them she'll change her relationship status on facebook.

You shouldn't really concern yourself with all that goofy nonsense and instead just try to fuck and see where it goes from there.

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Yeah I guess so.

Anyway, she has now said that a couple of her friends are going out now so I can either meet them or she can meet me for a drink "when I'm about". lol I think she's probably just realised she shouldn't be going for a drink with me alone so invited her friends too (who I dont know). I just said Id rather not and she should let me know if she's up for it another day. I hate socialising with groups of girls, they get too....girly.

You can't be serious... What kind of pussy turns down an invitation to hang out with a group of girls?

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Yeah maybe I should go, but I'm shy with groups of people (got mild social anxiety disorder) and I don't know any of them, including the one I was going for a drink with originally. It's kind of weird I think. I mean gooing for a drink with on girl you don't knkow thats fine, its kind of a date, but three is a bit weird. And I may not get on with them or they may start talking to each other cos they dont know me and I may just end up sitting quietly there feeling like I don't want to be there.

I guess I can always make an excuse to leave if Im not enjoying it...not that I can think of one now though

Pre-drink before them then... That will alleviate some anxiety.

And sounds like you need to practice your social skills. Don't worry, we've all been there. But what better opportunity to fail and learn? The only thing you'll learn from staying at home is how much of a coward you are.

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I understand the annoyingness of sitting with a bunch of girls who are chatting aimlessly for hours on end. But you can mitigate this several ways. Show up an hour after they have already met. Bring a friend of your own. Open other sets at the location and distance yourself from your set. I wouldn't recommend going with them all alone and just sitting there trying to entertain all of them all night.

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