| This is a reply to many of the posts here. Listen up. A lot of guys, especially new users are asking similar questions, in terms of the frame they are coming from and the mentality that they have. This is not a bash at you, this is to get you into the right mindset.
Mindset is a huge part if not everything when it comes to PUA. Your frame, your mentality, your reality, your grounding. You are the man. You are the man. And again, you are the man.
So you are the man, and you are asking things like "What should I do to make her like me?" "Where should I take her out so it won't be awkward?" "What should I do to have an intellectual date with her?" etc. Fuck that. You are the man.
And being the man here, you are by nature the dominant gender. YOU are dominant, YOU decide. YOU decide what to say, where to go, what to do. Not her. You are not pleasing her. You are pleasing yourself. Do whatever YOU want to do. If you want to go to a fucking art-gallery for a Day 2 then do that. If she's not into it and it's one of the things you care about in a girl, then she didn't check off one of the things on your list. You are screening her. Seeing if she is compatible with you.
Your FRAME is what most of you guys have got wrong. You are all trying to please her to not make things awkward, to not lose her. Well guess what, a true man would not care about losing a girl because he's got so many other options to choose from. He can just go out and get another girl if he so pleases. Because he's got the BALLS to go and approach girls. He can do it and he knows it.
A lot of you guys are trying to think of what to say or do. You say or do WHATEVER THE FUCK YOU WANT. This is your reality. Your world. Your sense of humor. Your way of talking, dressing, acting, behaving. If she doesn't like it well tough luck for her, because you are an amazing fun person to be around, and it's her loss. Be WILLING TO LOSE HER. STOP CARING ABOUT WHAT GIRLS THINK. THIS IS YOU. Fuck what she thinks. If she doesn't like you, well tough luck for her. You have other options available to you. Millions out there.
You have to know what you want and go for it without any apologies whatsoever. This means manning up, having fun and being self-amusing in the situation, and saying and/or doing whatever you want. Your intention must be CLEAR. Either in your verbal or physical communication. Physical is more fun, because you both know it's on but you're talking about your favorite music. How cute. So if you want to touch her, then fucking touch her. If you want to kiss her then fucking do it. If she resists, stay unaffected and go for it again.
You guys are being way too affected by what girls say or do to you. Why? Seriously, you are a man. You are sexual. You know you want this girl/these girls. You are attracted. It's NATURAL. You want to have sex. Sex is NATURAL. It's not a scandal, it's not awkward. It's how we fucking procreate, and it feels fucking great. What's not to like? Don't ever ever ever apologize for being sexual, for having a sexual mind, a sexual body, for wanting to have sex with the girl. If she says "All you think about is sex" answer honestly. Is it truly what you always think about? (Classic shit-test btw). Probably not, but don't deny you don't think about it. Because it's fucking natural and great and if she doesn't ever think about sex or isn't sexual then she must be repressed or something. You are normal and she isn't.
What do you do? You ESCALATE. This means escalation in every way, both physical and in terms of logistics. Physically you HAVE to escalate because, well...without touching there will be no fucking. And you must also progress things in terms of meeting up again. It's not hard really. Think about this. What do you really want? You probably want to see this girl you met at the bar again, right? OK. Great. So you now have her number. What is the most OBVIOUS thing to do? Text or call her. Then do so. And WHY are you texting or calling her? To meet up again I presume. Well there you have your intention. And don't ever deny your intention. Stick with it. Hold your ground. You like her goddamnit. You fucking go for it. If she doesn't like it or has a problem with it, then MOVE ON to the next one. Whatever shit she throws at you stay unaffected, don't react to it. In 60s words "Resistance is only real once you react or respond to it." Don't react or respond to her resistance, her shit. You stick with what you want. If she picks up the phone and knows it's you, then you know she's interested. She could've just ignored you. If she responds to your text, then you know she's interested. She could've just ignored you, but she didn't.
You are the man. This is your world. You bring her in. You never waiver your intention. There's nothing wrong with it. Absolutely fucking nothing. Seriously. You are screening her. Have fun with her. Have fun with the whole pickup process. Pickup can be so much fucking fun! It's a skill. An art-form. Appreciate it.
You know who you are, and do not be ashamed of it. A lot of pickup material came from guys who were ashamed of who they were and came up with techniques to counteract that. DO NOT DO THAT. DO NOT BE ASHAMED OF WHO YOU ARE. Work on yourself, know your highs and lows, your strengths and weaknesses, and work on them both. Develop yourself, improve yourself. But don't be ashamed of any of it. I've recently accepted that I am a pickup-artist, and not just some guy trying to get laid. I am that, too, but also a pickup-artist, it changed my life and it's a part of me now. It's part of who I am. I am also other things, but this is one of the things, and a big one at that.
So a few key principles to remember:
HAVE FUN - Have fun with it. The interaction, the girl, that night, with your friends, have fun. Laugh, drink if you want to, eat, dance, sing, talk to girls, whatever. Have fun.
Know what you want and go for it - Know your intention. What do you want? You want to talk to this girl. You want to get to know her. You want to touch her. You want to kiss her. You want to fuck her. Know it and
BE UNAPOLOGETIC - Never apologize for your intention. Pride yourself in your intention. You are one of the few people in this world who know what they want. It's natural to want to have sex with a girl. To touch her, to kiss her, to fuck her, to penetrate her. You want it and you like it.
BE UNAFFECTED - You know what you want, that's enough. Now get to know her. If she throws shit at you, ignore it. It's not really helping things move forward. If she gives you too much shit just walk away. There are other girls willing to talk to you, to get to know you. Have fun with her. Enjoy her shit-tests. They're cute, she's testing you to see if you are who you say you are. STAY CONGRUENT with what you say and do. Don't apologize, remember. Don't react to her shit. Don't respond to it. Have fun with it. You can pass shit-tests in different ways, but they all have the same core mindset and mentality. You're amusing yourself and whatever she says or does has not effect on you, on your frame, on your grounding. You can pass these shit tests however the fuck you like, as long as they don't affect you, put you off. They are designed to see if you are congruent. So be it. Be congruent. Be playful. "Do you say this to all the girls?" "Yes. You're the 341st I've said it to tonight. What do you do for fun?" It's not important. You've just waved off her shit-test, because it doesn't affect you.
SAY AND DO WHATEVER THE FUCK YOU WANT - Seriously. Do it. This is you. Express yourself. You wanna touch her? Do it. Fuck it. You wanna tell her she's cute? Do it. Fuck it. You wanna take her out to the park? Do it. Fuck it. Do these things for YOU, not for her. She's not the most important person. You want to get to know her. Do it. But do it because you see something in her that could benefit you and your life. Is she genuine? Is she kind? Is she smart? Whatever is important to you, make sure you know it. And then go see if she has some of those qualities. And don't ever be afraid and don't ever apologize for what you say or do. The only time you should say sorry is when it's genuinely needed (in case you actually hurt her by being rude or something) and you say you're sorry genuinely. The only time. But don't apologize for who you are or what you want. Come on. We're grown ups. We're children. We're whoever the fuck we want to be. And as long as you stick to who you are, it won't matter if there are miles of differences between what you like and what she likes. She will still be attracted, because she's not attracted to the things you like, but she's attracted to YOU.
STOP CARING ABOUT WHAT SHE THINKS - Seriously. Stop it. Fuck it. Do what you want. IF she likes it, great. If she doesn't, it doesn't even matter. This is you. You are who you are. Don't suck up to her. Be the man. Don't apologize for your behavior. Behave like you want to. Not like she wants you to. You bring her in. Stay congruent with it. You know what to do, so do it. Don't change for this one girl. Don't change for any girl. Do what you want.
Build a true genuine connection with her. Have fun with her. Be playful with her. Tease her, push-pull her, whatever. Do it. Have fun. Don't apologize.
Read up on stuff and go out and do it.
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