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It would be a humiliation because a woman will most likely laugh. ... Well of course I don't measure up, because that is just impossible.
You say these things as though they are beyond discussion, but are they? Let's take a closer look:
1. "I don't measure up, because that is impossible." I'm not sure what you mean by measuring up, but think about this: is it possible for everyone to perform above average? And, to take it a step further, is it possible that one person performs above average on everything? If these things are not possible, is it strange that you cannot do it? Should you punish yourself for failing to live up to an impossible ideal?
2. "A woman will most likely laugh..." Do people always laugh when others make mistakes? Are there people who never make mistakes? Is it really that bad to be laughed at sometimes, aren't there much more important things in life to worry about?
3. "It would be a humiliation..." Humiliation is a feeling, and although people cannot control the actions of others, they do have a certain degree of control over their feelings. But even if people cannot avoid feeling humiliated sometimes, should the risk of humiliation stop them from doing what they want?
I think it would benefit you to see a psychologist sometime. He/she can help you with cognitive therapy, which is somewhat like what I wrote above, on a much broader range of issues. I think you will find you have certain irrational thought patterns which you need to break in order to live a happier and more fulfilled life. Once you have sorted yourself out, you can focus on getting girls, because girls are not a replacement for self-esteem.
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