Well im not sure if this is even a problem or not, but ive been with my girlfriend for about 10 months now.... and i try my best to hold back, but my feelings are getting stronger and stronger for her. Dont get me wrong, she loves me just as much ( from what i can tell), but i have paranoia in the back of my mind about what ifs... what if this happens, what if that happens... but i still try my best to not spill it out and keep it inside.

Some days im confident as fuck, but other days i think of what would happen if someone more successful then me would try to pick her up, as she's around 8 years older then me and im not quite settled in yet fully. I've got the sick car and the extra's but no place of my own yet. It's the time in her life to start developing a family, im ready and willing to do that, i'm just not finished university yet.

We've had our ups and downs but lately we've been doing great and shit is sailing realll smooth. I've been keeping it alpha as fuck and blocking out my insecurities from coming to the surface and our problems are smoothing out as well. i feel our bond growing stronger and she's opening more and more to me. I'm just worried about developing these strong feelings, and having something suddenly go wrong... i know it will hurt me alot and i want to avoid it..

I'm not constantly focusing on the negatives, and we always have fun, laugh together and vibe really well. Everything is becoming pretty much perfect, and i know this is probably an inner game issue, but i hate feeling like i cant trust her sometimes, when i know i probably can....

Any advice would be great

You're right, it's an inner game issue for you.

If you're not like this all the time or with other women, chances are you're just aware that you're a little more vulnerable to hurt because of what you feel for her. In short, the bitch down the street can't break your heart, but she potentially can.

All you need to do is recognize why you feel the way you do and decide how you want to handle it. That should depend on the nature and status of your relationship. If you're putting too much emphasis on the relationship when it's not really that serious, then you simply need to focus on your own inner game to resolve it.

If you're relationship is serious enough that you're considering life decisions, then she deserves to know what you're thinking and feeling. If she's worth making those decisions for and agrees with your assessment of the relationship, then she will actually be attracted to you more when you divulge the info, and become more fully satisfied with the relationship, which makes her less likely to act on the very things you're worried about.

If you put it out there and she backs away from it, then you'll know that you shouldn't be worried about the life decisions, and should enjoy the relationship for what it is today, and in doing so, you'll be less insecure because you'll be more conscious that if it ends someday, you'll be just fine and likely will end up with someone better anyways.

Good luck.

Hah, i pretty much asked her today if i should really take her serious before i read this, which she answered yes to, and wants a future with me.... funny how you said to do the same.

Your right, its only her im vulnerable with, ive never cared about a girl this much, all the others i never gave a shit about .....

Its also kinda fucked how i brought up this problem, and now shes got a work even on saturday, which shes been invitied to today. Theres gonna be all the main bosses in her company, gonna be full of millionares :-/... cant do nothing but try to keep it alpha ..

and thanks for your reply