Hey it's Phantom here and I want to ask you couple of questions, and you try
to answer them as honestly as you possibly can to yourself:
- Do you sometimes feel like you want to do something, like approach a girl, but
feel stuck and paralyzed about doing it?
- Do you feel like you don't have much power in the world?
- Do you feel like you're not as worth as much compared to other guys, and
you spend time thinking about your insecurities and how less you are then
other guys?
- Do you feel needy when around women and do you feel attached to outcomes
in life?
- Do you feel like you can't say "No" to people and sometimes you can't stand up
for yourself?
- Do you sometimes wander in life, not knowing what you want and feeling
confused and depressed?
- Do you feel like there's something missing in your life, the heart, the juice
of life and you feel like your life is empty and meaningless sometimes?
If you answered to all of the questions or to at least one, very important to you
with a Yes, then you're going to love what I'm about to tell you:
You see, for a long time I wanted to make a system for guys with these kind
of challenges, but didn't felt like the time was right.
However, I now feel like the time has come and I want to give you a system
for building your confidence and handling all of the challenges stated
above.
The system is called The Six Colors Of Confidence™ and it's designed in a way
that will help you develop inner qualities in you, so you feel confident, firm and
strong when around women and people - and when you take on your life.
It took me 7 years to finally complete this.
So what is it and how does it work?
Well the system has Six Colors, and each color represents an area that you need
to develop, in order to become confident.
So here is the system:
1st color is Dark Blue and it sybmolizes POWER.
You know that you have power when you can do what you want to do.
Let's say you want to talk to a girl; but you feel fear and anxiety about it - so
you don't do it.
In this case, you need to develop this color of power.
I've designed specific tools and techniques that help you develop your sense of
power to break through your fear and anxiety and especially your laziness.
The most effective tool I use to help you develop your sense of POWER in the world is this
concept called CONFRONTING vs. AVOIDING.
You see, most of us in life, when we get into a situation that makes us feel uncomfortable,
we want to avoid it. We want to get away form it and hide into our little hole.
Well that's a big mistake.
Rabbits hide in holes and I never saw a rabbit with huge balls, have you?
Not being a rabbit in life but being a guy who confronts things is the FASTEST way to
develop your sense of power in your life.
Here's what you can do: Think of a thing that makes you feel uncomfortable. It doesn't have to be big, it can be something trivial like talking to a guy you kind of feel uneasy. And then, make
a commitment that you're going to go out, and the next time you see the guy, you'll walk
up and talk to him.
That way you'll develop this strong sense that you can DO what you want, EVEN IF it feels
uncomfortable.
The 2nd color is GOLD and it symbolizes your sense of WORTH
A lot of guys spend their days comparing themselves to other guys. They get
insecure when other guys are around, and they feel like they're somehoe less
then others.
They're not aware of their value or worth.
In this color, you develop your sense of worth, so that you feel worthy, valuable and you
stop comparing yourself to other guys.
You probably had an experience when you were talking with a girl, and at that moment
you felt like you don't have ANYTHING to give to her, like she has all the value and worth,
and pretty soon she started feeling that too and she RAN away.
Well it was because your sense of worth wasn't there.
This part is probably the second most important if not THE most important part when it comes
to your confidence. If you don't feel like you have anything to give to others, if you don't LIKE
and ENJOY yourself then others won't like and enjoy you.
It's crucial for you to develop your sense of VALUE and worth.
3rd color is SKY BLUE and it represents DETACHMENT.
Detachment is freedom from the outcome, this is you not being needy.
Neediness is a strange thing because it repulses women AWAY from you. So detaching
yourself from the outcome is extremely important for you to do.
When it comes to detaching yourself from the outcome, there are 2 primary things you want
to work on.
FIRST: The belief of "I CAN"
You see, the basic reason why you feel needy and attached to the woman, is because deep
down you feel like "I CAN'T" get another women.
So when you find ONE that is willing to talk to you, you hold on to her like a life jacket in
baywatch.
Instead, you want to develop a belief of I CAN with women, so you believe that you can
get another woman all the time. This will detach you from needing women, and it will
detach you from insecurities.
SECOND: The belief of "THERE'S NOT ENOUGH WOMEN"
This idea of ABBUNDANCE of women is very important. Most guys believe that there's actually
a shortage of women in the world.
They think of them like precious metals or rocks or something.
I do agree women are precious, and I think of them as equal human beings, but I don't believe
that there's isn't enough women to go around.
Look around you! There are women every where. If you did any sort of travel, you know this
is true.
So expand your horizons and open your eyes - women are everywhere.
The fourth color is GREEN which symbolizes COMMUNICATION.
Can you say "no" to people when you want to?
Can you start a conversation and in that conversation be PRESENT and CONNECTED
with the other person?
Can you speak without thinking, and like the thoughts are comming on it's own?
Most guys problem is that when they want to SPEAK up, they get silenced by this internal voice
in their head that tells them: "You'll make a fool out of yourself" or "Others will laugh at you"
So they don't speak up, they don't start a conversation with the woman or the other person, and
if they DO get into a conversation, they constantly THINK about what they're going to say -
which makes them appear unrelaxed, rigid and like they haven't got laid in years.
Amen.
This is why in this color of confidence I teach you a simple way of communicating called
"Free Flow Communication".
In the Free Flow Communiation you learn how to speak not from your head - but from your
stomach.
And I don't mean literally, but methaphorically from the stomach - the words aren't going
to come out of your head, but out of your stomach - so you'll be able to strike up a conversation
with anybody, and continue it with ease and without being self conscious.
There's couple of concepts I use in this Free Flow Communication syste, and one of them is this
idea of OBSERVATION.
Let's say you want to start a conversation with somebody - a girl maybe. And you're in your
head and you're thinking about what to say - instead you want to OBSERVE something
around her, like the color of her dress, which could be green, and you want to connect
it with something you also observe like for example let's say it's autumn.
So it's autumn and the girl is wearing a green dress - what's the first thing that comes
to your mind?
She missess summer!
You turn to her and you say: "You miss summer so much...because I've noticed you're wearing
a green dress but it's autumn. So it's either that or you need to work on your sense of fashion"
wink wink and smile.
In this color of confidence I also teach you how to stand up for yourself and how to say NO to
people, without having to feel guilty or ashamed.
The fifth color of confidence is ORANGE which represents your PURPOSE.
In this color, I talk about 2 things:
One is your SECRET AGENDA
Two is INTENTIONALITY and being intentional versus confused.
When it comes to your SECRET AGENDA, there are 2 important questions you want to ask yourself:
1. What is my purpose?
2. What's my opinion of my purpose?
Most guys have major CONFLICT about what they want to do - and what's their opinion of
the thing they want to do.
For example, when a guy want's to approach a woman, and he feels anxiety about it, it's really
because he wants to approach her, but deep down he believes something is wrong with him
approaching her.
It could be that he believes that if he approaches her, then this might lead to sex - but because
sex is bad in his opinion, thus approaching her is bad as well.
Makes sense?
So in this color of confidence, I lead you through a clarification process where we break down
every belief you hold in your mind about women, sex, sexuality and approaching them, and then
we demolish it, so you don't feel inner conflict anymore, but you feel relaxed, poised and CONFIDENT.
Second part of purpose is your intentionality.
Most guys, when they get out of bed, they don't know what they're going to do over the day.
When they see a woman and want to approach her, they don't know what they would say.
It's the intention part. You can see a lot of guys in the clubs or on the streets walking around
like they're lost - they're so insecure about themselves that they're unsure of their every
step.
So what you want to do instead is you want to develop some INTENTIONALITY. You want
to become more intentional about your moves, about your words, about your body language.
Avoid confusion and clarify as much as you can what do you want.
The final color of confidence is RED and it symbolizes HEART.
Watch some football players when they score a touchdown (or a goal in soccer) and you'll
immediately get what I'm talking about.
They are jumping up and down, they're screaming and yelling from joy.
You can live your life how ever you want, but it's my suggestion that you live it with HEART.
With passion, with joy, with disapointment and with whole spectrum of emotions, or colors.
As you can see, I named this system Six Colors Of Confidence, but it could easily be
Six Pillars Of Confidence.
But I like colors and I think people remember colors more than pillars.
So live your life with HEART. Live it with excitment and passion and every other possible
emotion you can.
Because when you start talking to that woman, she feels it INSTANTLY about how you feel
and how you take on your life.
If you want to learn more about the system and how it works, stay tuned becaue I'll be doing a free training on this system.
You can go and sign up for the free training here:
http://www.volcanoconfidence.com/6color ... binar.html
Also, if you're intersted in me working with you personally, you can contact me in my pm and I'll make you the man you want to be.
Your friend,
Black Phantom
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