Thanks.. I guess this field report is part of that. I also maintain a more detailed field report in a private forum and between these two I keep pretty good tabs on things. Dealing with two at once is pretty demanding on time. I don't know how someone really hustling to be a PUA can deal with 20, 30 or more active contacts!

October 24, 2012

So I got to work on some 'mid-game' this week but not with a pick-up. #1's sister is an HB8 and engaged. She and her fiance came over to #1's place and I was invited since I hadn't seen the HB in about 18 years! She was a kid then but all grown up now well into her 20's. So I engaged her and the AFC (nice guy but she completely dominates him). I wasn't trying to AMOG him but then it just came out naturally. The guy just switched jobs (cad work) and one of my clients is the largest manufacturing firm in the area. I told him if he got tired of the new job I've got connections to get him in. Of course I would absolutely help the guy get in but my ability to do that was a DHV. She became quite interested in my work situation (a contractor not an employee) which I generally refer to as 'it's complicated' to build a bit of mystery. I don't give details on income levels but I do slip up and admit I'm unsupervised and come and go as I please. (in control of my enviroment DHV).

Weaknesses in that session - no where near enough comedy. My back was bothering me. Old age sucks and kills game!

While this HB is a solid 8 in appearance, she lost points for the wrist tattoos (words) - sorry I'm just not a big fan of female tattoos! Also the way she got #1's two year old wound up annoyed me.

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October 25, 2012

A friend's birthday party at Applebees. Other friends going that I haven't seen in a while. I decided to invite #2 as I expected the others to bring a date. This ended up being very revealing about #2. She clams up in groups of new people. She did tell me she was shy... but it made me look bad because she was so unengaged. She also annoyed the heck out of me with constant hand contact. I can deal with some handholding but she rubs the palm of my hand with her finger to the point of it hurting. STOP!! I finally just started squeazing her fingers together every time until she got the message. I'm done with this one. She came over afterwards and helped me work on my house (remodeling a room) but I didn't touch her. She finally split around midnight. I shouldn't be wasting any of my time on this one.

I'm on the fence about the second part of this story. There was a HB7 waitress that wasn't directly involved in serving us. I went to the restroom and when I came out I had to go up a ramp to get to our table. Our eyes met and stayed locked for long enough that I got the message. I did break the lock because I was walking and had to navigate around a corner, but it felt good to have yet another reminder of the opportunities out there in the field. There was also two other HB's I couldn't help but look at a few times. So my dilemna is that I'm with my own HB but I don't particularly want to be or even care that much. But as an Alpha, would my role be to stay loyal to the HB I chose to bring, or is it ok to stray with the eyes and flirts? The voice in my head says stay loyal - there is always another day. But is that just AFC thinking?

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October 26, 2012

#1 took off today and tomorrow and is pushing for some time with me. Since I've very clearly indicated our friends only status, I plan on being in full browsing mode if I go anywhere with her. I figured I would do something with on one of the two days she made available. Would really like to go out to a nightclub since she would be DHV and I'm still free to approach. And a good training session for me to deal with AMOGs from other males when they try to pick her up.

Old age kills game indeed... Youth for wisdom is a better than fair trade.

With your two ladies in the 'FWB' mode have you thought about pushing your luck and going for the threesome? Just an idea.

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I'm a God, and women are atheists.

Yes I have been telling #1 I want a threesome with her. I always feel out this subject and she is receptive of the idea. #2 is not, but if #3-99 is then #1 would be easiest to call up. I found out #1's sister is unhappily married and told her that would make a great threesome. LOL. Of course she did the NII defense (not into incest!) but wow would that ever be one to remember.

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Oct 27, 2012

I've been expanding my eye contact and smiling effort. Today a HB-8 milf walked in a store. She made immediate eye contact as I was standing in checkout line. I locked for a couple of seconds and rolled into a smile. She immediately lit up, big smile back and turned her head towards me as she walked past. Good. I like this game more each day.

In the same store an HB8 with an HB15 ass walked in. I would have lost 7 places in line but I almost had to go after her. What stopped me was she had a slight bitch look on her face. Not the happy kind but the angry at the world kind. I shouldn't assume but I did have to weigh losing my spot in the checkout line. I opted to check out.

Tonight I am breaking the PUA rules. I'm going out to some clubs with costume events going out. Nothing wrong with that. But I simply ran out of time to order something awesome and was forced to either stay home, buy something locally that everyone else has or make up my own costume. I was set on going and I didn't want to be in the same outfit as someone else, so I was forced to do the simple self-made thing. Now this is where I probably screwed up, but I don't care because I just want to unwind anyway. I am going the inbred hillbilly thing. Bubba teeth, big straw hat, dungerees etc. Even though I'm ugly as sin now, I do have the weight of 'looking attractive' off my shoulder. I can make approaches tonight just to be funny. Who knows what it might produce. I'm going out to win, but failure is acceptable because it is so likely in this outfit! LOL

There won't be any country music at these clubs either. I could bring my banjo and make some LOL

Tonight was fail. Costume didn't work out. Went out in plain clothes after all but when I got to the clubs, EVERYone was in a costume, period. And the parking lot was 100% full. I ended up at a place closer to home but the HB ratio sucked and most were on the mid to lower end of the scale. I only saw one 'alone' HB tonight that I wanted, but I sat back and watched her shut down two alphas quickly.

I did manage to say hello to a couple of HB's in passing but nothing I wanted to take home.

Today and tonight set my self esteem back about 5 points.

October 29, 2012

Today I went to #2's place of employment for lunch. While #2 sat me I noticed an HB8 sitting the next table over. I was forced to face away from her because of needing to be able to talk to #2 when she stops by. After ordering, another HB7 or HB8 shows up and sits across the aisle from me facing me. Both of these HB's were with another female. I was able to hear both conversations. The late arrival spoke of children, which marked her down from 8 status. The one behind me got up and went to the salad bar, which I was facing. WOW! What a body!! When she returned we made eye contact until she broke it. I should have done a better job of smiling but my confidence must have been damaged from the weekend. In between this and #2 coming by to chat in between her managing efforts, the second HB noticed this attention I was getting. She looked over and I returned the look. Like a magic remote control, I fired up a slow but obvious smile which she returned in the same fashion. It was likely she was married but I was never able to see her ring finger.

Paying my cable bill produced a pair of HB7's working there. I managed a laugh or two out of the one taking my cash. I wasn't very interested in her though.

Tonight I went grocery shopping and was really let down when I found the parking lot almost empty. I thought I spotted an HB8, who later turned out to be my cashier. I gathered she was too young. Probably 18 but still... and that was all the entire store produced across a 45 minute shopping session!

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I'm having problems deciding on who I should approach. Basically Im not finding very many that I am attracted to at all. Where do I draw the line? I mean so I run PUA efforts on a woman I don't want to date/have sex with? And then friend zone them? I do I stay focused on what I really want - the thing that landed me here at PUA world - a nice sexy HB9 type only?

Nov 1st, 2012

I don't have much to report. I continue to find a shortage of HB8+ supply. Even when I see HB7's they are either too young (subjective, I know, but I prefer mid 20's and up) or loaded down with kids (or both!). It is obvious I need to expand my coverage but time is limited by work and household duties lately.

My #2 just got her fourth tattoo. I've decided that was more than I can handle (I severely dislike tattoos on women). One or two I've dealt with but this is just too much. I've backed off from her in search of something more interesting. I'm still learning how to push them away, but taking a long time to answer texts, and keeping those answers short seems to work ok.

My #1 is still around. She isn't as forthcoming with the action but I do see her a couple of times a week.

The new girl at the Waffle House... saw her yesterday finally. She showed up just as I was leaving. I decided immediately that I was not interested. Something about the way she moves. Next..

Obviously I am getting in a corner here. I need to find some new scenes to hopefully spot some targets of interest. Then I can actually make approaches in hopes of closing. I'm just not seeing much worth going after at the moment.

Nov 2, 2012

Grocery shopping for my elderly mother, I spotted an HB7. Later she was in my way. Her cart was pretty full for a single person so I assumed she had kids at home. Our interaction was her apologizing for being in the way. I couldn't build on it. There was an older AFC lurking closely but not with her. He was obviously interested or at least checking out her ass. I totally blew a chance to do an opener but it was pretty certain to me she was at least a mother of two and probably married. I could still open them but I haven't put enough thought into how to get out. I'm afraid of them latching on too quickly.

There is yet another festival downtown tonight. I'm going to set a loose goal of approaching and opening at least one. I would love to number close or date close someone but I am not feeling the energy tonight. We shall see though.

It turns out #2 is still lurking more than I thought, plus she is going to show up at this event tonight. Once she finds me the PUA work will be shut down most likely. If I was in school for PUA I'd be a solid D right now for my grade.

Nov 3, 2012

Last night worked out decently. The HB's were out in force. Another good night of learning. I stopped by #1's place and made out with her for warmup. This really put me in a relaxed and great mood for the night. We plan to go out tonight so I was just building some tension in advance. Then I headed out to the event..

I saw an HB8 that I knew (she's on my FB but I don't look at her updates normally). She was looking HB10 last night. A guy I thought was her boyfriend was lurking about 50 feet back in crowds, but I approached her to say hi. Before I got to her she went on the phone, so I lagged back but she looked back and saw me. Forced to say hi but not wanting to stand there like a moron while she was on the phone for who knows how long, we exchanged a friendly how's it going but I then moved on. Looking back over my shoulder, this tall blonde also on the phone was heading straight to her! Damnit! They were trying to find each other and I just missed a perfect introduction! No way to go back at the moment, but they could not be missed for their appearance. The guy also did show up with her a couple of times that I ran into them again but then he was gone for the night.

As it happened, I ran into a mutual friend of ours and he was alone for the night as well. I told him what had just happened and now I had the perfect excuse to get in front of her, as she's love to say hey to him as well. He said according to her FB status she was single. That explains the whole outfit (she fixes up like an HB10 but she gets HB8 for being a bit nuts)

Within 15 minutes we had located the blonde but not the first one. As we went towards the blonde she immediately recognized both of us!? We exchanged awkward hellos and how are you's and we both walked off bewildered. She told us the other one was by the band so we used that as a reason to move on. We found the first one and I immmediately asked who the blonde was. It turns out the blonde is a girl that worked with her who used to have jet black long hair. We were in love with that girl back then! But now she had chopped it down and changed the color. At this moment that girl returned and we had a laugh about the whole situation. Neither of these HB's are working or in school at the moment.

Both looking for a new man. I lost some interest but sent a friend request to the second since I already have the first. These two HB's hang around a ton of HB8-10 types and go out quite often. My plan is to use them for new contacts and DHV. They did ask where my 'other half' was so I was able to pull my divorce card. Both have two kids and neither are LTR material for me. I wouldn't mind f-closing the first one though!

I saw three HB's I probably could have approached. I started to make an approach on a solid HB8 but at the last minute she stopped and turned (I was moving up front behind), mumbled something either to my friend or someone behind him and darted off to the right. I never started the actual move into her space so it was nothing to do with my approach, but the way she barked out whatever she said made my lose some interest.

There was HB7 in a set with a much older HB. She shows IOI's as I walked past (I was in a group of about six people sharing leadership role with one alpha). I moved by her a second time and she appeared to be close to 40, so I didn't want to approach. Call me jaded but I don't want any old ladies after being married to one for so long.

Finally an HB8 in the parking lot as I was leaving. Since everyone was starting to leave, I assumed she was as well. (first mistake, assuming). She was by the driver side of an SUV. As she walked around the back, the lights came on, so I assumed her man was starting it up (second mistake, ASSUMING). She was also looking over at me and I was of course looking back, but I expected her to turn and to to the passenger door. Nope! She was heading towards the event! At this point I would have been to aggressive looking to double back. I did wait around to see what would happen though, since it was winding down. A few minutes later she was walking back with a couple.

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Lessons learned las night:

1> I have to be careful with this assuming business. Assumptions make convenient excuses not to approach and are often completely false

2> These two HB8's both have issues. One is a convicted felon including about a year in jail!! The other is half nuts. But my point is when you meet someone you have no way of knowing these things. This theme extends beyond last night and into my existing closes. Both of them have no problem handing out white lies to those they love. Be careful out there guys.

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I'm feeling more and more comfortable and confident, even though I'm not yet engaging in approaches on new ones. I seem to have a bad (good??) habit of picking them apart as I spot them and talk myself out of the approach. The thing is I don't think I want to waste my approach energy on lower level HB's. I'd rather practice on HB8+. I'm just not seeing enough of them around so far.

Am I doing the right thing by only wanting to approach HB's that I really want? I know I could FB close lesser ones and friend zone them.. it's just I'm a bit spooked because these lesser one really seem to latch on. I don't want baggage! I need to be able to move fluidly when I do spot that nice HB I want to go out with.

Keep up the blog. You've inspired me. I'm nearly in the same boat as you. Found myself 39 and divorced after 13-years of marriage. It had been so long, I didn't even recall what game was. I decided to check-out of the game while I found out what it was. I read A LOT, lurked in these forums A LOT, and needed time to work on my inner and outer self. After some time, I dabbled a little, messed up A LOT, and then shut it down again while I fine-tuned. I'm finally in a place where my confidence is through the roof and I just started diving head-long into this. My workout routine didn't start to take-off until I started holding myself accountable through a blog, so I think doing the same thing here will keep me in check. But great work, man. When you're hitting up these festivals and such, are you soloing? I have zero unmarried friends and nearly all of them have kids (including me), so that's what I'm usually doing.

Yes mostly solo'ing, although at this particular monthly (except winter) event I have tons of friends & acquaintances there. Over a five or six hour period I end up walking around solo and with various friend(s) and groups.

I do a lot of solo dinners and then I'll mix it up and bring a friend (male or female) on occasion to the same places. I don't want to look like I don't have friends. I truly enjoy eating alone sometimes, if the waitress or nearby females are good looking. It does suck when they stick you with the only male waiter in the place though.

Nov 7, 2012

Not a lot to report. My brother just passed away. He has been fighting lung cancer for a couple of years. Since I have a funeral to attend I went ahead and bought the sport coat I'd been looking at. I went unique and pricey, so in the long run I should stand out and various social events (always keeping PUA rules in mind these days). But for now I have to attend to important family matters, so I'll update later.

Back from the funeral. I have a fairly large extended family all based in the area, so I saw a lot of people I haven't seen in the past year. One thing that stood out for me this trip (I see most of them every Thanksgiving) is that several approached me and commented on how well I look. They loved the jacket yes, but more importantly they noticed that I looked comfortable, confident and in control. I am subconciously controlling my walking, standing and sitting now in a confident and relaxed way. It absolutely shows. Amazing. Also wearing nice threads helps convey that a bit too. I must go out to some social events in this outfit soon.

On the other hand, tonight I ended up stopping by a subway for a sandwich on the way home. An HB7 with an HB9 ass was in front of me and didn't so much as glance at me, even though I was dressed up in a tie minus the jacket. Maybe she was into girls. You never know these days!

So the HB8 from the downtown festival last week has been FB stalking me! She has suddenly started liking and commenting on posts daily. I just got my boat back after being in drydock for a few months for repairs, so I had been posting pics of the run back to the marina. She's made comments about dinner by boat bring romantic and how much she wants to go out on it. Can't get much more obvious than that, but the only plans I have involving her and the boat include bikinis and her bikini friendly HB friends! She's looking for love (and a daddy for her two girls). I'm looking for eye candy on my decks!

Nov 14, 2012

It has been a terrible month for me. Lost my brother to cancer, almost lost my mother to a bad accident and work has gotten very complicated. I'm missing all kinds of work due to hospitals, dealing with her car and of course an out of state funeral. None of this helps with PUA activities.

Last night, Target, grocery section... a really cute HB7 (she was really an HB8 but with a heavy ass that would have made her HB6 except she was too pretty in the face thus HB7). I just wasn't in the mood to make a successful approach. The most I could muster up with a muted 'hello'. Even to that she responded well based on her body language. Obviously I'm not where I need to be, but I do have a lot on my plate at the moment.

Regarding the HB8 in my previous post, I continue to interact with her via FB. It seems her month is just as bad as mine and she made a status update about her stress. Everyone is posting thoughts and prayers crap. I said 'welcome to the club. You make good company!'. She liked the comment. I'm playing with fire with this one. But so what!

I haven't had any other positive HB experiences. I'm feeling a bit ignored actually but with all of these stress factors I'm sure it projects and lowers my value.

Keep up the blog! I have been following it for awhile as I am 42 years old and found myself single for the first time in my life a little over 3 years ago. Unfortunately I didn't find this website until a couple months ago and spent those 3 years as a celibate, certainly not by choice.

It seems like you live in a small town in NW Florida. I lived in Pensacola for awhile and hopefully there is some city around you within an hours drive (Tallahasee, Panama City or Pensacola?) Maybe plan for a day where you can find a 4-5 hour window in your busy schedule and drive to a bigger city, maybe hit up a few differnt places where women congregate. Maybe go to 2-3 bars and just order an appetizer at each. If nothing materializes in 30 minutes, go on to the next place. You may even be able to do this right after work one night if you don't drink alcohol while you are out which really isn't necessary anyway. Just do something that is out of your routine and where there will be new women for you to practice your skills on. It will do wonders for your confidence and give you something to look forward to.

Now what really might help and was suggested to me when I joined this community is try not to FAP or have sex for as many days as possible before going. If you can make it to seven days I doubt you will have much trouble talking to anyone and everyone. You will be amazed. There are many threads on this subject that can explain this better than me. Just search NO FAP.

Good luck and keep posting!

Almost nothing to report. It continues to be a difficult week dealing with my mother's accident and trying to catch up on work.

I've continued interacting with the HB8 on FB. She has become more pro-active in commenting on my stuff now. Tonight she's on the prowl, posting about going out. I could use a drink so I might have to run into her somewhere.

This HB 7.5 waitress around 22 was on my radar big time. We have been flirting like crazy the last couple of times I ate there. I finally found her on FB and it turns out she's got a baby and a two year boyfriend. Facebook, the dream killer! I swear every one of these HB's around here has 1-3 kids. Uhgg

My #1 and #2 closes continue to lurk. I'm not really messing with them much. Going out to dinner tonight at my favorite dive where the waitress HB's are quite fond of me. Gearing up for some Christmas luncheon events where I plan to dress to impress this year.

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