hey guys,

as most of the guys out there I've always been the guy with confidence problems and the shy/loner one. The thing is that I don't have many friends and the few I have are busy doing their things and I am basically alone most of the times. But what I really hate the most about myself is that I'm such a p**** when it comes to getting over breakups or flakes. I'm all that depressed kinda guy that it takes months to recover from a breakup or failed pickups. How to get stronger at this? How to forget about my ex and the other ones that I failed to pick up? Lately I was texting and going to dates with this really hot HB (9.5) but today I found out she dropped out of school and went back home (about 40 mins away) and I know that she will not keep going to dates and all that, I mean that girl is literally putting 0 effort into going to a relationship with me. So I just want to move on and forget about her? Any tips to just be a stronger guy and get over things and people?

I'm going to be mean here. My intent is NOT to insult you, my intent is to teach you something. Sorry, it'll hurt a bit maybe...

GO AND GET YOURSELF A LIFE! Don't fucking cry over girls. You gotta value YOURSELF! You are expecting from a girl that she values you and puts effort in you. If you don't even put effort and value in yourself, who should do it? The girl? No...

You sound like you want to receive things. You want to receive satisfaction and love. IF you want love and satisfaction, go and get it. That's what it means to be a man! A man just takes it. He wants something, he goes for it. Malcolm X said: "Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it."

Go and work on yourself. Go and stop masturbating and start working out. Start dressing better. Do it for your own! Not because you wanna be liked by someone, rather because you value yourself. IF you can't control yourself and your own emotions, who can? Nobody. Go and meditate, learn to control your thoughts! Get something done!

If you had a breakup with a girl, you gotta start giving 100% of your own efforts into yourself again, not in her, but in yourself!

I am also going through a breakup time (it wasn't a serious relationship though), but I am here where I was before the relationship. Get your shit together and start LIVING! You got hobbies? You got things to do? You got a book to read for school? Go and do it! You want her back? Go and try it. If it doesn't work, forget about it. You got NO CONTROL over things that are outside your skin! Fucking forget it! Control yourself and live the life of your dreams rather than to cry and looking for escapes. You wanted to be a doctor as a kid? Go and do it! What do you need to do that? Money? Go and get your money! Time? Go and get your time! But when it comes down to motivation... You gotta create your motivation by yourself! No one is gonna motivate you!

If you want to have friends, go out and socialize with a strong character (you've hopefully built up). Everybody likes a strong character.

Good luck bro!

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I believe that I am a man that died 20yrs ago. I live like a man that's dead already. I HAVE NO FEAR whatsoever of anyone or anything - Malcolm X