Ok so I met this girl on Facebook, and long story short. We met up in person and now we like eachother. Anyway, a couple days ago one of her friends got jelous and texted her and told her that all I want is sex and that I don't really like her. And now she's convinced that all I want is sex. She tells me that she's been hurt by men a lot and she thinks I am only going to hurt her so she won't date me anymore. What should I say? What should I do? We've only been dating for a week so we don't know eachother that well. I really want to keep her tho and she says she still has feelings for me. What do I do?

Tell her that she is free to believe whatever she wants and that you can still be friends but if she accuse you one more time in something that someone else told her about you you'll she'll never see you again.

Act like she hurt your feelings be emotional but not too much and indifferent. She'll realize her mistake.

I don't know if its the correct thing to do but if it was me then I would spin it back on her!

I'd text or meet up and say, "Hey, I'm sorry you feel that way as I like you and could of seen us really going somewhere! I'm offended that you think I just want sex as that is not who I am and it's unfair to judge me on your past experiences! You are obviously not ready for a relationship so I think this is the right decision! Best of luck (your name)!"

Then freeze out for a few days if she replies.

In my experience the more you push these matters the less the success rate. I'd do the unpredictable thing and totally agree with her. If your lucky she will realise her mistake.

When a girl tells you that all you want is sex, it means one of two things. She thinks you are coming on way too strong, or she doesn't really like sex that much.

The way you respond is by backing off the sexual stuff and pretend that you also don't like sex that much. Or maybe that you do enjoy it, but it's not a focal point for you. You won't be able to talk her into being more sexual and putting out, so you might as well go along with her rather than fight her on it. It's kind of like arguing with a chick who doesn't like you as to the reasons she should like you. That shit doesn't work. All she did was lock the door you were trying to enter through. You can't just kick it down, but you can find another door and try to enter there.

Tell her that if she wants to see a guy who only wants sex, then check out some of your friends. Tell her that you are actually failry tame compared to most guys when it comes to wanting to sleep with girls. Make her feel like maybe she was wrong about you after all.

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This smells like a shit test to me.

She's testing two things, your intent, and how you handle criticism from her and her friends.

I would ignore the criticism, be polite and tell her it's too bad that she feels that way, but that if she thinks that's all you're about it's best not to date anyways and leave it at that for a few days.

Doing this proves that you can handle criticism well, and that you will not invest your time in a relationship with someone who let's her past or the opinions of her friends determine her assessment of you as a man.

If it isn't a shit test and she really has this issue going on, I would seriously question if I wanted to invest time and energy in a relationship with a girl who clearly is showing you a red flag. Again, this last part applies only if you don't think this is a shit test.

guys u're confusing him it's not a fucking shit test and he's not coming off too strong please stop giving rubbish advice

Would beating the hell out of her cockblocking friend be the alpha thing to do?

What I would do and this takes some big ass balls. I would say to her face to face. "Yes that is true. I just want to have fantastic sex with you. I have enough friends and am not looking to add any more And with the kind of friends you have why would I want to be grouped with them." Then kiss her.

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She wants reassurance that you want a relationship with her. Her friends clustered you as a player and she is being insecure. So she wants to find out what are your intentions.

However do not give her the answer. Her insecurities will make her think about you and fall in love with you. If she was to leave she would have left already. She stayed and she is in an inner argument about what to think. She resists to accept you as a player.

If I were you I would tell her something would tell her: I am not that easy. If you want sex with me you have to work a bit harder. And I would make the conversation lighter and fun. Make her laugh. Make yourself the prize that she has to put in bed.

It is very important not to give the answer and continue with the flirting because you are raising the tension. If she is in love she will not listen to anyone what she says.

How can you be so sure this isn't a shit test? They've shown interest or seen each other for a whole week? Any woman who pulls this on me the first week doesn't get the oh, I love you and would never hurt you response.

Early in the relationship, he's still gaming her. She's not invested, just merely interested, at least that is how I read the OP original post. Therefore, I'd treat it like a shit test.

In any case, shit test or not, if it's not a shit test, it's a red flag. It takes a gifted man to decide to invest the time and energy on a woman if she really has had a lot of issues in the past. My preference would be to let her work through it all on her own, and possibly consider her gf material when she can prove to me she has.