I'm going out with 3 Girls different right now. So She isn't my only option. I just feel like she's the one That's all. I just want to figure out the psychoLogy behind this so if i do get things like this in the future ill be able to handle it. And others can learn from my exoerience if they do get something like this..

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

If she was the one, you can have faith that it will work out regardless of whether or not you talk to her. You're a man and as a man, you have a healthy appetite for women. She knows this, and yet what has she done about it? You see what I'm saying? If she is The One, why is it you who has to do something about it? Where's the pressure on her end?

I read this quote today on Chateau Hartiste, and I thought it would apply here. "When I’m on a winning streak with girls, I feel they all get less hot. I find myself turning my head less often. I see pictures of girls that I thought were flawless and I see flaws. I find myself thinking about other areas of my life. Conversely, when I’m not longer with a girl, and I go into a slump, I find my ex was hotter than I remember."

Keep dating those other women, get out of that slump.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Got that Thanks man! Keep clam and Date other women. She'll find her way to talk to me.

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

Good for you, ask yourself why is she the one? Probably, cuz ur not getting the desired attention that the 3 new girls r giving you... but if this woman actually matches your prefrence of a good woman.. then by all means..go after her...

That must suck to still have a thing for your ex eventhough she has a new dude in her life. At least you are gaming other girls though.

I have experience with holding on to an ex's stuff. My advice. Keep it and don't give it back to her until she gives you what you want. The reason is not to be a dick. It's leverage. You having her stuff is like a rope that keeps her tethered to you. The emotional things, friends you share--all of that can be written off and she'll be willing to let those things go so she can move on. But for some reason people are petty and materialistic, and if you still have her cd's, she simply can't let those go and will beg and plead, and risk her new relationship just so she can text and email you about getting them back.

I had my ex's stuff in a bag on my closet shelf for two years, and I never mailed it to her even after many requests. Then recently I ran into her and she went on a date with me so I gave her belongings back. It was just a dress that was by now out of fashion and a few half-used bottles of lotion and perfume. I don't know why she was so fixated with getting it back...

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I'm only holding on to some pieces of clothing and undies.. i felt that if she didnt really wanted to talk to me(and her bf doesn't want us to meet at all) she wouldnt mine losing these clothing as i bought some of them for her when we were together.

Part of me still want her back though. Maybe it's because the girls i'm dating dont give me the attention i need. Guess I have to play this slow like how i first got to know her.

And she's definitely having problems with her bf. They got into a relationship like a week after we broke up. =/

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

I'm only holding on to some pieces of clothing and undies.. i felt that if she didnt really wanted to talk to me(and her bf doesn't want us to meet at all) she wouldnt mine losing these clothing as i bought some of them for her when we were together.

Part of me still want her back though. Maybe it's because the girls i'm dating dont give me the attention i need. Guess I have to play this slow like how i first got to know her.

And she's definitely having problems with her bf. They got into a relationship like a week after we broke up. =/

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

Chances are she was planning this, hate to say it. Girls don't often meet a new guy and start dating him within one week of dumping you. She may have been flirting with this guy for a while, and he used a BF destroyer the first chance he got.

Don't feel bad man, I know it's easier said than done. Just keep yourself busy, and reflect on what you should change about yourself to become a better man. Who knows, maybe things won't work out with this new guy and after a while, she will come running back to you. You just gotta be strong, and not let her get the best of you for this to happen. It'll be the hardest thing you ever do, but you'll be glad you did it later on.

hey strling,

she kinda made contact with me first after 3 months.. guess there is some issues going on with her bf and her. her current doesnt like her talking to me nor even meeting me nor texting me. but i have tried texting her abit and so far the convo were some what ok. but there are times where she would just snap and bring the convo down.

I'm kinda getting mixed signals now and i'm not sure if i will be able to maintain my cool and confidence when i meet her sometime soon to pass her back her stuff.

I do want her back and i have told the girls i'm dating that dont put too much hope of getting together with me as i'm unsure of my feelings and that one day we'll get hurt. they were all fine with it but i just dont feel the attraction for them.

Any idea how i can string my ex back into my arms? or how should i play my game?

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

Hard to say. I'd avoid talking about the BF so much. If she starts talking about the problems she's having with him, you can sympathize with her but not too much. Keep it short, say something positive about the bf while acknowledging her problems, then change the subject.

Take it slow for now. Obviously if she's having problems with this new guy, things aren't really working out for her. Game her like you would any other girl, and if she keeps having issues, try and get her to hang out with you. Not dinner or a movie, just meet up for coffee or lunch.

If she gets into a stress-free situation with you, she can relax and get comfortable. That's the advantage you'll have, because she can't get as comfortable with her bf if they're fighting. Just be sure the kind of attention you give her isn't too friendly, otherwise you'll only her your chances.

Hey Sterling,
I met her ytd and She came to collect her stuff. She cried when She left my.place saying that she'll miss the place. She brought up that She broke up with that new guy. Is this a sign? Im meeting her later again to get my pass back. Left my work pass with her and im on sick leave. -_-!

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

I feel bad reading the end of this thread, as it seems she took your balls when you guys broke up. Why, do tell, would you want to get back with someone who dropped you like a bag of shit in a garbage can for another guy? Do you enjoy knowing you'll forever be second best if you guys get back together? Do you think she won't break up with you again in a heartbeat as soon as another guy comes along that gives her a little attention?

Be glad you got rid of this two-faced person, and don't talk to her again.

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The hottest ginger you'll ever meet.

I don't have an ego, I just love how awesome I am.

What is all this talk of "the one"?

The One, your soulmate, the person you are destined to be with... That's all bullshit made up by Hollywood to sell movie tickets to thick women.

Completely right. It would be great if this whole concept actually existed, but it's about as real as Santa Claus.