hey guys first time here, new to PUA, I know there is lots of info here but was hoping for specific advice to my situation. brief history, better than average looks, average natural game, been out the loop for 16 years marriage. I am older 37 but am in dental school and spend lots of time with the 20 somethings and am very confident and comfortable here.

Any way met this HB 10 in computer lab she helped me with something, saw here a week later in the computer lab invited her to the bar after school with some friends she said maybe.

Couple hours later she shows, we drank and talked for several hours. She is a regular there on tuesdays so I met up with her and her friend a couple of days later, once again we talked for hours then she divulges that she has a BF. We continue to have a conversation. She is 24 and she tells me she really does not care if i am 37 she has some older friends too.

At this point I had not even begun looking at PUA, turns out we have a mutual liking of the MJ smoke, I tell her I will bring her some of my home grown another time. We end up at her place, she rolls us a J and we hang for a bit. Kiss close fails, and she tells me "I cant that would be disrespectful to her BF, we only just met"
the next tuesday we met at the bar again we talk for hours, I mention to her that i will be out thursday night and she should meet me. she acknowledges with a maybe (i have her number by this time) and then explains that she needs to turn her attention to her friend so i leave. I asked her to lunch a day later she says no her BF would not appreciate that.

No communication till thursday about 10:30 she says she is on her way to where i am with her friend and a guy they just met. I tell her maybe ill see her i was thinking bout leaving. A while later I am talking to a girl at the bar when she comes behind me and tickles my neck and gives me a hug when i turn around. By now i started looking into PUA i acknowledge her and then send her on her way as i continue to talk to the other girl.

Lots of eye contact when im talking to the other girl, Eventually we meet up, dance, kiss on the dance floor, back to her place, heavy make out session with LMR as i approach the vital areas, she periodically gives Push/pull and states she can't. we end up in her bed, she says i should leave that she has a rule no guys stay in her bed you can sleep on the couch. She did not push it we cuddled in bed and slept there make out a bit more, no sex.

next day she says she feels bad, and that i got lucky sleeping in her bed.

text her first time in 4 days good, funny, shit, she is laughing. I joked with her about the innocent girls are the kinkiest, she does not deny and tells me she is gonna leave that comment open. I asked if she wants to meet up, she says yeah maybe later, I offer to buy her lunch her response "tempting but i have to get some stuff done before i loose motivation". Left the text with stop thinking of me and get to work, hit me up later if you want to hang, her- HAHA ok sounds good!


Ok i know that is a lot but looking for some very specific suggestion for the next move.
Thanks

This is a non issue. This is basically dating. You flirted with her, schmoked out, got to know her, escalated, made out, slept (but not had sex) together, and now she wants to meet you again to progress in your relationship...whatever that may end up being.

I'm not sure what you are wanting here. Do you want me to like tell you how to hold your penis and insert it into her vagina? It's obvious that you are quickly heading to an f-close.

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Well i am glad it is obvious to you, means i am on the right track. since this is the first girl i have hit on since getting out of a 16 year marriage i would say my observation skills are less on point than yours. I guess what i was getting at is at the next encounter what is the move, do i have to start from step one or is more intimate contact implied at this point (can i walk in and give her a quick peck on the lips or do i need go slower?) Also what happen to the BF, is this a non issue now?
My objective is not looking for a girl friend here really just want to hit it as quickly as possible.
Sorry if this is some trivial stuff but... 16 yeas of MARRIAGE! feels like im 15 again.

I would go sort of slow after you meet her next. Don't try to kiss her or grab her right away. Try to build up some sexual tension and play coy for a while. She'll be sitting there expecting you to move in on her, then she'll wonder why you aren't. I don't know if you'll be sitting on the couch for a while schmoking or whatever, but I've been in that spot several times so I know what it's like. Playing it slow like you know you can have her whenever you want is a sign of confidence. When you finally decide to move in for the close, be very deliberate. I think that is far better than trying to kiss on her right away and telegraphing the fact that you just want to get physical with her. Keep her guessing a bit and maybe she'll chase you.

And don't worry about the BF. If she's willing to hang out with you after what you guys have already done, it's a non issue.

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solid advice man thanks

hey on last quick question, the least text i had asked her if she wanted to get together but she said she did not have time right then said maybe later, left it open for her to contact me when she wants. have not heard from her since yesterday morning. the past two weeks we had meet up on tuesdays at a bar after school, she will most likely be there today, if i dont hear from her do i go to the bar or freeze her out till she contacts me?

Oh dear gawd. First of all, why am I the only one responding to you? Where is the love pua community???

Second, do NOT go to some bar and try to stalk this girl and track her down! Are you kidding me?!? The only reason you should do that is if you are brining a different girl there with you to make her jealous.

Freeze her out, then when she finally contacts you act a little disinterested. If she waits too long, you might have to actually reject her if she invites you to hang out, at least momentarily. If she doesn't contact you at all, then obviously you'll need to contact her, but wait like a week. Then just text her and be like "Hadn't heard from you for awhile, you still doin' okay?" Whatever you do, don't be needy or stalkerish.

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