Hey guys, so I found some old conversations of my new GF with her ex, we've been dating for a couple of weeks and she was with this guy for 1 year and a half, they seemed to have real chemistry and I got really intimidated, I know she's attracted to me but I don't know how to generate that kind of comfort, plz help I don't know exactly how to get to that point plz help!

Forget about what you say..and try to give her a better relationship than what she had last time

Thx for the reply, but that's exactly what I want to do,how would you go about it to give someone a great relationship in your opinion? This is my first in a while and I really like this girl, but I'm getting nervous about messing it up

First How did you find those conversations?

Are you spying? Why did you felt the need to see the conversations!

You need to stop thinking about her ex, and try to start investing in your relantioship.

If she wants to go back to her ex she will... nothing you can do about it.... So why even bother...

Girls love attention what can we do about it? Even they cant figure why they are such attention whore...

If she is not cheating or setting up dates nothing to worry.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Conversations weren't threatening, they just made me feel like we don't have that much chemistry yet, how do you develop that with someone?

First being true to yourself....

if you worrying so much about that it will fuck you over. And you wont be relaxed to be yourself

Stop watching about her txt, it will only play against you.

Relax...

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Snake Doctor's absolutely right!

There's nothing to worry about. We all feel insecure of ex's sometimes but they are called ex for a reason. They fucked up in one way or another.

When she's ready, she might tell you why they split. Try not to do the same - that's if you really want to keep her for a long time..

You find, create, and experience more chemistry the longer and more time you spend together. The more you get to know her, the more you'll find chemistry if it's there. And if it isn't there because you are different, then maybe it isn't meant to be.

No sense worrying about it. Let the relationship develop, and see where it goes. I'm very sure she didn't have all that chemistry with her ex in a few weeks either.

I so agree with this! You're in a relationship to feel good. You're not seeking a relationship just to imprison yourself with stress and insecurities.

Find out what keeps the connection and continuously "innovate" ways to keep the chemistry going.

Experiment buddy

Snake Doctor is correct!

Forget trying to be her ex and focus on being the best version of you!

my ex was with her first proper boyfriend for 3 years!

when we broke up she said that her love for me was greater than her love for him, she was completely in love with me.

some may say 'bullshit, she's just saying it' but I could tell she meant it.

My advice to you is:

-try and stand out from all the other guys she has dated
-don't be needy or clingy. let her do her own thing!
-be a nice guy one day ..eg could you get me a beer babe...then say thanks and kiss her....then ask the same question the next day and when she gets u a beer...slap her on her ass and say cheers babe! - this keeps things from getting predictable
- make her laugh as much as possible.

- DON'T SNOOP on her, you'll just find things out that may play on your mind, upset you etc. she needs her privacy just as much as you

soon enough you will have the chemistry you desire with her