I'm a college student currently in asia (from america), where people tell me about the girl's shyness here...

"The girls here are shy..."

And one thing that I abhor is when you talk to girls, and they talk back like a shy 5-year old or AFC. It's disgusting. Gives me the chills. I like a woman with some confidence!

My question: How would YOU handle the girls who ONLY talk to their own social groups (people they are familiar with ONLY)?

Bah! i have the same issue.

You should go for the opposite:
Projecting Comfort, Attraction, Comfort Building

You gotta show them your harmless, make them feel like they can talk about anything.

The game works differently on those girls. cut back on negs... definitely. your rapport has to be complementary with your negs if you'll use them.

Open her friends first. WHEN her friends accept you, your target will let her guard down and you should be able to start building comfort from there. Start with small talk (how do you know each other, where are you from, etc.) Also, be careful with the negs on girls from non-English speaking countries, as they usually can't detect sarcasm.

Exactly, but do show her that you are in control and alpha at the same time. Just be sure to be very generous with the compliments.

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tell her she's boring and ask her WHY?

thats how you handle them....Artist

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lol, welcome to cold approaching... thats just how it is 99% of time.

Juggler called this the 90/10 rule... when you first start a conversation you must provide 90% of it, because at first she will only supply 10%, after awhile as she becomes increasingly interested in you... she will 'open up more' and show her true self and hold up more of the conversation.

But honestly to her... why should she hold up a conversation with you right off the bat? Your just some guy... now when she becomes interested... then your someguy she'd like to know better.

Also please don't say something like "Why are you boring?", it's insulting, needy, and unjustified... you approached her right? Your responsible for the brunt of the conversation then until she becomes attracted a few minutes later.

Very true.

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Thanks guys.

Doctor, you give great advice. One question: Is what you're saying true, despite that most women in this community are shy (except with friends)?

Where I am, all the women are shy...

this is a neg. Say it or not its like asking a girl are you adventurist? wow your to much of a nice girl? wow Your Boring? Tell me something interesting. When she show IOIs and you know that she's shy so make her Open up to You. Yes she might get offended (Sexual Charge) Kicking in. I have field tested this on the Phone also. Artist

p.s. THANKS DOC hahah your boring. NEEDY? i guess not insulting Yes or so so now Unjustified? use it as C+F tell me the Result then.

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You obviously still don't read the topics at all, because he was talking about SHY girls and shy girls don't react well to negs without first building some attraction and comfort. If you come straight out of the gate with negs, you completely lose them.

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This is TRUE. Rye Lee thanks agian. Haha your a alright guy. cool.

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