As you can see I am new here and really need some advice.

I have been dating this girl for about 18 months; she is Indian and lives with her aunt and uncle. Her and me were planning a trip to Poconos with friends however her aunt ended up finding out about us being friends and made her life like hell. (Even though she’s 23)

When I arrived at Poconos she ended up calling me and ended the relationship crying frantically on the phone. Now after this we started talking less for a week. After the week was over we started talking like how we used to. We still fall asleep every night on the phone together just like how we used to. Now the thing is I am her first boyfriend, first kiss, and the guy who took her cherry so it’s hard for her to forget me. She wants to remain friends with me, but she feels awkward when we hang out. I do not want to loose her on the account of the fact that she helped me get a good job, find a degree, also helps me with my school work and cares about me to such an extent.

These past two weeks things started to change; she doesn’t want to talk at night as long, doesn’t want to wake me up anymore and changed her Facebook password. I feel that she is drifting away and confronted it and ended our friendship. She then promptly deleted me of Facebook last night. She ended up texting me right now once I got of work and told me she still wanted to be friends but she needs her personal space and privacy and thinks we need it otherwise we really cant move on.

The thought of her with someone else terrifies me. She isn’t the type to date around but I do want her all to myself. However her aunt is making her life hell. Now the thing is with being friends I feel as if I am loosing her little by little which is making me paranoid as hell. Now on to ending it completely I do NOT want to end it since she continues to help me out all the time and cares about me. So what do you guys think I should do?

You need to move on, there are plenty more. She has already given you the LJBF.

When a girl says to you, "let's just be friends", that's like your mom telling you, "the dog died, but you can still keep it if you want to.

She has moved on whether you like it or not. Just text back "Okay friends it is then"

Then go hit on some girls!

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I have to agree with what the man said. You have to let her go. If you really want her back you will do this, not because you will release her forever, but because she will notice how much she misses you and needs you. Go talk to other women, this is cat string theory in play. She wants what she can't have because just as you said, she friend zoned you. Immediately stop contacting her and let her miss you. This is probably the toughest part but if you don't do it, you will lower your value and come off as desperate. Once you begin talking to other women it'll become easier. Good luck.

I have to agree with what the man said. You have to let her go. If you really want her back you will do this, not because you will release her forever, but because she will notice how much she misses you and needs you. Go talk to other women, this is cat string theory in play. She wants what she can't have because just as you said, she friend zoned you. Immediately stop contacting her and let her miss you. This is probably the toughest part but if you don't do it, you will lower your value and come off as desperate. Once you begin talking to other women it'll become easier. Good luck.

They're right man. I remember my first relationship in HS. She was my first and I was hers, but instead of being a man, I did every AFC trick in the book to try and win her back over. The only thing I succeeded in doing was burning down bridges for good.

Just suck it up, and move on. If she wants to be with you again, she'll find a way back into your life.

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