Tripp,

Cheers for that advice, I was actually not too sure whether the whole "STOP.........." thing was gonna work but in the end I thought fuck it and went for it.
She took a while to reply but eventually she did reply saying "what?" and some other personal stuff like how was your christmas etc.
I replied with whole ".........smiling. See I bet you are doing it right this second".
She loved it! She replied saying "I was smiling but that text from you made me have an even bigger one" and then some more small talk.

Just goes to show, any inhibitions or concerns you may have about using some of the stuff on here you should ignore as it is tried and tested and generally works. I guess I just needed someone to push me into using it!

Thanks again!

Glad to help scotboy15.

quick question. how do you get a girl to invite you over to her house without sounding weird?

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Chase the dream not the Competiton.

THAT could go a LOT of different ways. I actually need more info than that. Give me the situation.

Happy 2008. Let me start this year off with a question,hahaha.


How do I help out a friend on his afc behavior, without sounding as if I am the know all be all about female psychology, and how exactly attraction is created and maintained?

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i lust for jessica alba, but now since she is preggers. I am lusting for Nicole!!! It's New Year's Day. It was Ben Franklin who said, "Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man."

Happy 2008 to you too.

What I would do is go somewhere with him where he can talk to some women on his own. When he fails, slip him a couple of "tricks" or "tips" and urge him to try them. When they work, he's likely to want to know more. You can build from there.

Thanks Tripp, I have the place that he and I should go. There is certain to be a ton of girls there, and this time I will not fail in the clutch like on my last adventure.

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i lust for jessica alba, but now since she is preggers. I am lusting for Nicole!!! It's New Year's Day. It was Ben Franklin who said, "Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man."

There you go fortunehooks. You'll get the job done bro.

Hey L.A. thanks

<3 Erin

I need your advice on a certain situation.

What's your stance of platonic friends with women?

Over the last 2 years, I have developed a friendship with two sisters. One is going on 20 and the other is 21. Now I have never kissed them or done anything sexual but despite that I do feel a sexual vibe around them with me. The 20 year old just got out of a 3 year long relationship and it's been almost a year and still hasn't gotten over her ex. The 21 year old, on the other hand, has a year old baby and she is still seeing her baby daddy.

There's nothing wrong with these girls. They're beautiful, have really sexy bodies, and they're down to Earth. I must be crazy because I haven't tried at all to date them. But I have my reasons.

The 20 year old I'm very close with but her pessimistic view of life is a turn off to me that I just do not want to bring me down. I don't find her sexy because of that and because of her insecurities.

She's not the problem or why I'm even writing to you though. The 21 year old is. I think the only thing stopping me from dating her is that she is still seeing the guy who she had a baby with. I'm cool with him and to top it off I'm actually the Godfather of the baby. Her boyfriend has a sense of trust in me because he's one of the biggest paranoid fuckers I ever met in my life and to top it off he's really jealous.

Here's the thing, the 21 year old sister has been calling me late night a lot more than usual. Sometimes our convos range from 1-3 hours. She's always flirted with me but it's always been kindergardenish and innocent. Recently it's been different. I don't have a Blue's clue if she's playing with me or not but she has told me that she would like to have my baby because of the genes or personality...something pertaining to that. I didn't even ask her that. It came out of her mouth when I was talking about something else. I was pretty flattered and to me I took that as a big compliment but as a sign as well. She's then asked me questions like if I ever imagined her naked and she's always complimenting my look, style, and what I said. Sometimes I feel that she is joking just by how she says it but I just don't know why she would bring her 2 cents in. Maybe she thinks I'm full of myself?

This is my dilemma: I am attracted to her but I don't want to fuck up anything that's going for her. She has a baby and even better she has the support of her boyfriend so she's not alone. I know she wishes he could be so much more though. I know she wants a man. She probably sees a man in me but I don't want to be supporting a baby that isn't mine. This situation is pretty risky and while I do admit that it's a bit exciting, I don't think it would match my ethnics and what I'm all about. I don't want to sabotage a relationship that can effect a year old baby. That and I think it would cause a chain reaction with my friendship with her sister as well as her family. What's even weirder is that these two girls are friends with my ex of 2 years so I kinda have to see my ex by default because of that. I think the older sister is into me because according to them my ex always talks about me.

Ever been in a situation like this? What do you think would be the best thing to do for the long run?

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Ok, first of all, it's so obvious she's completely into you, and wants to be with you. If the baby is THAT big of an issue for you, then there's the problem. Personally, I say you SHOULDN'T even have that issue, if you actually like her. I understand what you're saying, about not supporting a baby that's not yours, BUT that baby will be just like yours if you were a part of that family. Yes, I've been in similar shoes. So, that comes down to just how do you feel about her. And, honestly, I wonder just how much her b/f really DOES support her? Taking something from my personal first hand knowledge of similar situations and people, for a guy to be THAT jealous, he's likely not supporting her as well as you THINK he is. So, that shouldn't even be a concern on your mind. I get the impression that he's just a placeholder in her life at this point. Until she finds someone better, which she probably DOES believe is you.

BTW, where in the hell does that comment of her thinking you're full of yourself come from? Because she's complimenting you on a lot of stuff? That doesn't mean SHE thinks your full of yourself at all. Likely, she thinks just the opposite.

As far as all the other relationships that you think would be affected by a chain reaction, that's honestly overanalyzing. Anytime you change a relationsihp it affects other relationsihps in every area of your life, period.

In my opinion on this situation, the biggest issue here for you to deal with is that baby. You're NOT destroying a relationship that is somehow possibly kind of supporting the year old baby. Trust me, that baby is better of with something solid, which doesn't sound like what she's got right now. So, do YOU want something serious with her or not? You have to answer that question yourself. If you don't, then don't fuck with her, and move on. If you DO, then pull the trigger, because she's laying awake at night at this very moment wishing you were there sharing her bed with her.

Hey Tripp.
I have a question for you.
My sister and her friends and Boyfriend went away for a few days over New Year's. While away, and going out she got hit on, alot, problem was she said, was that within 5 questions each guy would drop the 'so, do you have a boyfriend?', and upon hearing the answer (yes) they would quickly leave. She seemed to love this because it happened so much, question for you, how could these guys have done it differently?

Yea, I know she likes me. I realized that I was mistaken when I said that the baby is the only thing holding me back. There's other things too. She's been known as a compulsive liar and even though she probably doesn't lie as much I don't have an absolute trust in her. I also think she's kinda immature and I want to talk to mature women. Their relationship has been rocky ever since the baby was born. About maybe two months or more ago both of them have decided to grow up a bit and they have been having a pretty good relationship according to her. Both of them are pretty immature though. They will do things just to hurt the other if one of them is pissed. I.E She always "breaks up" with him when they have a fight rather then settling it and he ignites more fuel into the fire when something comes up. Physically, I think he's supporting her baby. He comes and sees the little guy every day and then takes her out to eat. Emotionally? I don't think so and I have the impression that maybe she goes to me for that.

Check this out, on Christmas Eve, she got real upset that he didn't show up to her house to see their kid open up presents. Instead, I think he went to a friend's house to smoke weed and he didn't know what the big deal was because he doesn't celebrate Christmas. I called her up later that day and she started crying a bit and started talking about how she needs a man and how she feels so alone despite being in a relationship.
I was talking about the tone of her voice when she says it. She sometimes would say it in a jokeful tone like "oh yes you're the greatest."

You know what's funny though? I talked to her about seduction and how I'm trying to seduce my ex (the one that me and her both know) to get the reactions that I want and for some reason she seemed really into what I had to say. Ever since then she has call me up a lot more. She's a flirt so I think she can relate to seduction.


Yea, that's what I'm afraid of. I'm cool with her family and I'm down with her sister and I comfortable where I'm at right now but I do think her sister would be jealous or angry at me.
You know something, I don't want anything serious with her. I don't think I want anything serious at all for the moment. Me and her flirt and I love flirting especially with someone who knows how to flirt. I really like writing a lot so excuse me if I'm bothering you somehow lol. Me and her have talked about this attraction on the phone. She has told me that she's attracted to me but she has a lot of things going for her right now and she doesn't think right now is a good time but maybe in the future and I honestly agreed with her because I told her that I respected her relationship and even her boyfriend likes me and I wouldn't want to fuck anything up. That convo was maybe 3 months ago, in hindsight, I'm not so sure if I was kidding myself or not.


Aside from that, I got a little something else that I need to ask you .

I posted in this thread once about a girl that I met in school. She gave me her e-mail and I sent her a message. I told her that we should meet up and she told me "Let's maybe next Wednesday I'm going to be out of town." I replied "Ok, I'll be expecting you then. Merry Christmas."

Well, she never really replied back. The week that she was suppose to be back had passed and nada. I thought she maybe left me for dead. So I sent her an e-mail wishing her a happy new year and she replied back saying "Happy New Year!!!!! How was your holiday? I just came back last night… I don’t want to go back to work!! "

Yea. What can I say that sounds smooth and have her see me on a date?

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Wow, interesting question. Yes, of course she loved it. She had the power. But, she would have loved it even more if a guy had broken through that power. And, how that would happen is your question.

For a guy to blow through that with a girl, you have to be different than the last 100 guys that hit on her that day. For instance, open with something that catches her off guard, something that interests her. Then, build attraction first, then comfort. And, don't come directly out with that "do you have a b/f" question within the first 5 minutes, or 5 questions, either way. You can find out if she has a b/f by simple convo and getting to know her, say in comfort. If she drops the bomb unprovoked before then, there you go and your time is cut short, which is a good thing. If she's in a set, as your sis was, they guys approaching could have easily asked the whole group . . . "so how do you guys know each other?" which would have provided info the guys could have used. In other words, the basics that we constantly teach would have worked for those guys with your sis.

I feel like this explanation is muddied this morning, so if it is, please don't hesitate to ask me to clear it up.

Ok, sounds like you've come to the best conclusion with the other matter. Leaving that relationship alone.

For this matter, honestly it sounds to me like she blew you off, HOWEVER, it is possible that she forgot, though not likely. If you want to push things and see if she will get together with you, you can say something like "I'll fill you in on my holidays when you meet me at x place at y time." Since you've already met this girl before at school, there's not that barrier to meeting. This also shows that your bold and want to move forward. Which is a good thing.