Right I dunno how to say this but I just need to write, maybe some of you feel the same maybe you don't.

Short background me and my girlfriend have been going out two years not great and not crap either just a well balanced relationship that we both enjoy been in. ( Until recently )

OK so the reason I say recently is I feel I am eating myself alive it's not healthy and I thought it would pass but it isn't. I feel like I've lost myself for some reason I am not happy and I don't know why I think it's the relationship she's good looking, My friends love her and she's generally a cool person to be around. One issue that she is selfish as fuck and I make most of the effort she does put allot in but not as much as me. I've told her this and she just doesn't realise it and just gets upset.

I don't know what to do I want to be with her but I can't explain it I just feel like shit all the time for no reason I don't enjoy going out anymore, I don't enjoy my hobbies anymore I just want to stay in and that's not me I have a wide social circle. I can't explain it! I had no where to let all all this out so thought maybe you guys have been/in my situation.

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

Sounds like your stuck in somewhat of the same position as me.... read what sidddine(sp?) posted in my latest thread... shes losing interest or its not increasing while yours is still high .... your losing your confidence and self worth .... you must rebuild attraction to where your in complete control of the relationship

Either build your confidence back up or get some other women to get your mind off her, if you think shes not as dedicated as you are

what are some ways to rebuild the attraction in the relationship?

I think your own feelings are letting you know what you should do. Maybe she's sucking your energy and your life force out of you (Not intentionally). I've noticed there is sometimes hidden negativity in some people and they just make you feel bad overall. It's not their intention, especially in love affairs, but you feel shitty anyways. I think you should definitely take a break from that relationship and regain your joy for life. I'm not saying to break up with her, tell her how you feel without pointing fingers at her and explain you need some time to focus on yourself. See how you feel with a little distance from her and this might help clarify your situations and your feelings towards her as well. I know that your mind is making excuses to try to salvage this, she's great, god with your friends etc. But the way you feel isn't conducive to a happy relationship, you'll be feeling this more and more and wonder more and more. Sometimes people let these sorts of feelings accumulate to the point of no return, they get fed up and break up for good. So maybe it's better to make a pause now, take a step back, distance yourself so you can see clearly and then see how you feel about her as your gf. Good luck.

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rAFC and yes, I'm a chick.

I have bursts of being a lady, but it doesn't last long.

Great advice Txacoli.

Some girls just bring me down emotionally like an energy drain while others make me feel high.