Ha.

...I never have, I probably never will. But the idea of letting him know I know what he's up to cryptically, does appeal.

Bad idea?

I'd say its a bad idea! He could use it against you! Be the bigger man!! This dude does not even pop up on your radar! He's at home whacking off to the thought of your gf while your actually doing the nasty with her! If that's not a confidence builder then I don't know what is lol!



Or at the bar you could become friends with him and tell him that your gf is in to some real kinky stuff! Say that she likes to bang guys with a strap on before she lets them any where near her pussy! Then say "ohhh that's her now" while pretending to check your messages! Then walk off looking like you've just recieved the 14 incher the night before! Lol

That should work

GTDave is spot on.

It takes work to improve yourself. If you trust her, you have nothing to be insecure about. This whole thing would have been something to smile at when she showed you the texts or told you about it. Fuck man, it should be a compliment that other guys would die to be with your girl. You should be willing to accept it as such. If you can, you are a winner, and if she makes a mistake, that makes her the loser.

Listen to GTdave, focus on this, and work on it yourself. Fake it till you make it. If you're sweating, come here and vent, but never let her see you sweat. And if she asks why you don't care, tell her it's because you know you have something special and it isn't worth it to get all hot and bothered over meaningless texts like that.

Be the better man and she'll pick you every time. It is easier said than done, but really to get better at it. It will come. All you need is the desire to make it happen.

Cool man. I guess I have stopped working on some things seeing as we're not too far off being together for a year now.

I think I'm gonna re-visit the Alpha rules book(s) by Carlos Xuma... I finished them pretty much around the time me and her got together.

I will probably be going to a few bars with friends and her this weekend... what do I do if we swing by that joint and Sgt Douche is in there? Apologies if this sounds like I'm going round in circles, but I really do have a habit to want to over analyze and plan everything

You are being disrespected but it's not by the guy. If this girl is your gf, she should make it clear that she doesn't want a guy who's interested in her to text her. She should have told him that she wasn't available and she doesn't want him contacting her. She's letting him flirt with her and maybe encouraging it. Don't be mad at him for getting an opening and going after it.[/i]

She already made things clear to this dude months ago. He shares mutual friends (not in the facebook sense) with me/my GF so its a political situation also.

Further, there are about 8 million people in our area... so its a bit strange for him to suddenly try again!

Just like to say thank you for your replies.

I've got a much cooler head on things now. I intend to stop snooping at what captain Jerkoff says to her. I trust her, and besides that, anything he says is probably just gonna piss me off. If he has any self esteem he'll prolly get the message this time around

Just one further question on this topic...

Next time I go to this bar with my friends/girlfriend... how do I act if douche is there? He wouldn't have the nerve to approach around me, but say he steals a moment when I'm at the bar etc... what to do upon encountering him?