I have been having a huge problem lately, and this has probably always been my biggest sticking point.

I can't seem to do anything that could even be thought of as sexual. I can say almost anything, no matter how risky, but I can't seem to do anything sexual.

There is one girl that I have already had sex with, and I even have problems with her. I feel like I am her friend, nothing more. I see the signs. I know when she wants me to do something. I know when and what I should say and do... it just always feels so forced and awkward.

The only thing I can equate it to is playing a video game, and knowing what to do, but not being comfortable enough with the controls to do it. I can visualize it all in my mind, I can see what to do... but I can't.

I guess my biggest question is this: is this something you get through gradualy? Or am I going to have to tough it out, suck it up, and just go for it despite everything?

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"Those Who Choose Misery Are Not Worthy Of Hapiness" -- JAL

I'm having the same issue.
I flirt & flirt somemore, but when they offer the sex im just not interested & the thought of forcing myself makes me feel uncomfortable.
This isn't "the answer" but i think it might be one-itis.
I feel i need the comfort with her before any advances take place.

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Kolt maybe you're gay? nah im kidding lol.

seriously it's all innergame you've gotta stamp out that part of your mind that rationalises the things you say..it inhibits you from fully expressing yourself sexually and in the long run will affect other aspects of your game.

play on players

Wow, so you are not too needy but the other way around... Thats wierd! I would guess that you do all the things I try to avoid... Watch an x-rated movie before going out, do not please yourself!
Bring out the inner pervert.

Feels strange giving you advice in the opposite direction!

Ezo

Watch any movie with Pierce Brosnan.

The Thomas Crown Affair for example.

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No problem. Since you've already had sex with her, just be direct and tell her exactly what it is she's making you feel at that moment. Usually PUA's sugarcoat it a little for escalation, but if you feel like you can't, then just throw it out there and keep bombarding her with direct statements like "you look so hot babe", "you're making me hard", "god damn your legs are fine", "your skin is so soft I just want to touch it", etc. etc.

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Nahhh no homo,
but the stamping out the rationalization makes alot of sense.
I think its also that there is very little chase & it doesnt turn me on when they just offer it so easily.
Strange?

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